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My fiance (lets call him Brad) and I are having a huge fight. It has been ongoing for months now, although for a while we decided just to drop the subject because we couldn't agree. Here is the situation...

Brad lives in a house with three of his male friends, all young around college age. One of them, 8 months ago, acquired a girlfriend (Deety) who unceremoniously moved into the house without asking anyone. She has a child, but not by the roommate in question, lets call him Jass.

Many problems in the house revolve around Jass letting Deety move in without consulting anyone. For one, she has not paid rent in the house for many months (although she does now). Also, money and other valuables have gone missing while she has lived there. Mostly, Jass's stuff, money from his wallet on several occasions, but one other roommate has complained that his DVD collection is missing as well. Since there is no PROOF though, no one has done anything about it.

So that leads me to our story. Back in December, Brad gives Jass his share of the rent to take to the landlord. Jass loses the money. He says he left a couple hundred dollars in cash in the living room unattended, and though he searches the area, he can't find it.

At the time, I was also there, as well as all of the roommates and Deety. Jass immediately points the finger at me. I say I hadn't been in the living room all day but in his mind, and also in Deety's, I took the money.

So, Jass still has to pay the rent. He doesn't have any money. He asks Brad for DOUBLE the rent, Brad gives it to him under the assumption that he will get his money back from Jass when he has it. Later, Jass tells Brad upon confrontation, that he had no intention of giving Brad the money, and that it was not HIS responsibility...

Brad thinks this is unfair, but after several feeble attempts to get his money, he drops the matter entirely because, as he puts it "Jass is my friend." I might also mention here that Brad is a complete ***** -- sorry but it's true. Brad thinks, that if Jass gives him back his money, Jass will think he's admitting that his girlfriend took the money, and he can't do that. I tell Brad that this is a crock, and that whoever TOOK the money has nothing to do with it. It was in Jass's care, and Jass should give him back his money for being so dumb. Brad says it's pointless for him to try to push the issue with Jass and drops it.

NOW, fast forward several months. Jass is still borrowing money from Brad. Jass's girlfriend is still living there although she is no longer his girlfriend and is seeing some other guy. Brad STILL refuses to talk to Jass about the money. I am thoroughly ****ed off and disgusted. Deety has been an off-limits subject for months, but it was brought up the other night and now Brad and I are fighting about it again.

Here's my question.. Should I DROP the subject again even though I KNOW I am RIGHT (quadruple exclamation points). Or should I just butt out even though I am RIGHT, and I don't want Brad to be a pushover anymore, especially in matters of money... and yes I feel betrayed by Brad because he is essentially not standing up for me by letting Jass believe that I took the money, and I don't think he has tried to refute that belief very strongly at all. What should I do?

And I am not leaving him over this, thanks.