First of all to own up to the "I got my girlfriend pregnant" deal, you are on the right track! ApPlAuSe for you!
You need to sit down with your girlfriend and her parents, and later your parents, and tell them(and yes, it is not an easy thing to say to people...I went thru this years ago.....by myself! )I knew what I had to tell my mother was NOT a great and wonderful thing...I was about 21 at that time...and going to jr college and still living with my parents. The guy that had gotten me pregnant didn't "know how I had gotten pregnant!" He was from another country,but he was acting "dumb" (In my opinion!) but, he did pay for my abortion....I actually wanted to give the baby up for adoption, to a family who would let me know how my child was doing....thru out the years...but my mother thought that an abortion was the key answer.(she also didn't think that people would "pay" to help me in the hospital and then to help them adopt my child!)..
I have mixed feelings on the subject....I would have loved to have my little one! I really would have! I was raised in an area that was mostly liberals, and they are mostly "Pro-choice" however, I was starting to change my thoughts and views...because to me, that was a" living being that I had "killed/aborted"and I still feel sad about that time,....I am now in my early 40's, and if I get pregnant, I am going to keep my baby! (My fiance' knows that I didn't want to "kill"my baby,) and also he feels strongly about adoption as he was adopted himself not to mention his sister as well! But, he told me early on,(if I got pregnant), that he would want me to keep our baby! I would love to do that!!
I love children and I am a preshool teacher! I wish in so many ways that I hadn't of gone thru with the abortion, but, there is nothing that I can do now, about it! But, for you, thank you for being a wonderful boyfriend......thank you for caring,,,,,you know, there is a bright side in having a baby/little person that is a part of each of you. You get to love and adore that person, and teach them things,and show them things and talk to them.....that in a nutshell teaches little ones quickly, the "work" that you put into loving and speaking,and playing with your baby...makes it all worthwhile,and makes them intuitive,and intelligent and more! I think that you shouldn't panic yet....but, just speak to both of your parents.,,,and get some help....you can take classes on parenting...I have seen so many of those,ask around, it will help you get prepared,and know what to expect!
I know that you are frightened, but, turn the situation into a positive...and look forward to "meeting" this new little human being whom will be sharing the both of you,and another thing, I strongly feel that it isn't enough just having a mommy there to care and cuddle and snuggle with...it's also an important place for the daddy,,,to be there too! "Daddy's " give sometimes a different "prespective" on things in life.....Daddy's of America well as other places too,(many of them) are good hearted souls,and they are such great people to get to know,and to learn life lessons from!
I very much hope that both you are going to be okay,and your baby as well! I wish great things for the two of you!! and great joy, with your new addition! Little people will give you "vavoom"! they have "tenacity" and pure enjoyment at learning what you already know...they see things quite differently,because they are just starting out! You will learn an awful lot from these little intelligent people! Trust me! And, what's more, you're gonna want to hold them,hug them.,cuddle, snuggle, kiss them,and just be there for them...teaching and learning...they are really incredible!(I was also a nanny for twenty-five years + and then some...I still love babies, so very much...they make me laugh,and smile! I also learn alot!
Wishing you health, happiness, and a whole lotta joy comin' your way!