We've been together for nearly 10 months now, and for most of this time she is always complaining about the things that are wrong with her. I don't mind this at all (complaining isn't the right word really), but I wonder if there is actually a 'root cause' of the problems, like a condition or disease but I don't really want to bring it up with her as it's not much of a nice topic! Sometimes she says people must think her a hypochondriac but she genuinely believes all her problems are real and I've no reason to doubt she's telling the truth.
The symptoms, as far as I can tell, go like this:
1) Fatigue. She's always tired, seemingly regardless of how much sleep she has had. Although she does a physical job working at her family's steel fabrication company, I'm not convinced it explains being so tired all the time, though she seems to think it does.
It isn't so bad that she can't do anything in the evenings, but more about her always 'feeling tired'. We do generally go to bed early (10-11pm) and get up around 7am, so I wouldn't think it's a lack of sleep (though point 2 might suggest it could be a combination).
2) Being uncomfortable in bed. She does find it hard to sleep sometimes, though mainly it's waking up early in the morning and being uncomfortable. She finds it impossible to lay in at the weekends, as once she's awake she feels so uncomfortable in bed that she has to get up.
3) Headaches and/or neck pain. She has been to the doctor/chiropracters about this. The headaches are apparently 'tension headaches' probably caused by the neck pain. The chiro does say she has a lot of tension in her neck/shoulders, but this doesn't seem to get much easier even after her chiro sessions.
4) Feeling sick/stomach pains. She has been diagnosed with IBS, but has tablets (colofac?) for this, and she tried to steer clear of anything with lactose in it, as she's pretty sure that she has a lactose intolerance (stomach pains much worse after drinking milk, even just in a cup of tea). These precautions don't make the sickness/stomach pains go away completely though.
5) Frequent toilet trips. We joke about it, but she seems to spend half the evening going to the toilet (urinating) - sometimes as regularly as every 20 or 30 minutes for 2 or 3 hours at a time (or even more). She does drink a lot of tea (maybe 6-8 cups a day) but otherwise doesn't have that much fluid intake. I drink 4 or 5 cups of tea a day, and a LOT of water but don't need the toilet half as often as her.
6) Aching pains in her arms/legs. About a month ago she started getting a bad pain in her knee, saying it felt like it was "insider her knee cap" when I asked exactly where it hurt. She visited the doctor after it failed to get any better within about 7 days (remember she needs to be mobile for her work), and he prescribed anti-inflammatories but they had no effect.
After about 10 more days the pain did go away, but more recently she started getting pain in her upper left arm. She said it didn't hurt any more/less if I pressed or rubbed it, but it hurt lifting her arm up and particularly performing activities like taking her top off (not that I minded helping here there...
She was convinced that it hadn't started hurting as a direct result of anything she'd done at work, and we swapped sides in bed so she could sleep facing the other way, so as to be more comfortable with her arm, but all this seems to have achieved is now both her arms hurt! Her sleeping positions haven't changed recently, so I wouldn't expect either arm to be hurting as a direct result of her sleeping on them badly, though I might not be helping things.
Inflammation isn't likely as she was still taking the anti-inflammatories for her knee when the arm pain started, and surely this would suggest it's something else. Also she again has some pain in her knee, though this time it's the other one, and also we both noticed a small-ish red mark on her knee cap right in the middle (about the size of thumb print so not that small). This could be something entirely random, or is it?
Last update is she went to the doctor yesterday and explained about the arm pains (but didn't mention my points 1 - 5 above as she doesn't think they're relevant, much as I did suggest she mention them). The doctor took some blood samples to "rule out inflammation and 'other things'", but wouldn't elaborate on what these 'other things' were.
Is it possible to detect inflammation in blood tests? Does anyone know what else he could be testing for? I've not discussed my concerns that she might be suffering with something to her, but now she is a bit worried about what the doctor meant with his 'other things'. She has another appointment in a week, but if anyone can suggest what the problem might be, it would be good to know.
Basically she is happy to think that most of the problems are unrelated, or fairly trivial when considered individually. Whenever she's been to the doctor she has never mentioned all of the above problems in one go, and this is why I wonder if they are related but she can't see it, and obviously the doctor is none the wiser if she won't tell all her problems together. Should I try and perusade her that something might be wrong, and that it can only benefit her to tell the doctor everything? I know she is fed up "feeling ill all the time".