Can't Handle My Antisocial Self Anymore..It's creating a Downward Spiral - Open to All Other Health Topics Message Board

mikemanus32 · 07-11-2008, 09:11 PM

I about to turn 18 years old and I can no longer hande the severity of my extremely antisocial, paranoid, low self-esteem self any more. I can't go anywhere without thinking everyone is looking at me and thinking something about me. I can't talk to anybody (sometimes even my family) or look at anybody without blushing and getting all nervous and embarassed. I cannot express anything of my opinion to anybody without getting all panicky and blushy and nervous. I cannot talk to people at school even if they are the nicest person ever. I constantly fear being called on by the teacher in school in fear of hearing my own voice in front of the class or expressing my opinion. I sit at home all day long like a recluse and never get out becasue I wont be able to enjoy it. I hate the thought of being forced to socialize. I am the most socially awkward person to talk to on the entire planet. No Joke. I fell like with such anger built up inside because of the severity of this unfair condition that I am gonna snap one of these days and kill people or something. Is there any medication I can take to help me with this problem? There is no way I am going to talk to anybody about it so please dont even suggest that idea. Thanks for any replies.

Misty800 · 07-12-2008, 06:23 PM

You are no doubt suffering from "inferiority complex".

I had the same problem in my younger years, in fact all thru high school.

Finally I realized I was a "child of God" the same as everyone else. God loved me just as much as he loves others. I also realized I was just as good as the next person, just as smart, and that others were no better than me.

It wasn't until I realized the above that I began opening up to others a little here and there. Over time with my new discovery, I won over the inferiority complex.

No one can do it for you, it is something you must realize and start working on "you". The sooner you realize the above the sooner your life will be great!! If I could overcome an inferiority complex, you can too. It is not easy, but it is doable.

No one was doing this to me, I was doing it to myself.

You would be wise to see a doctor and check out to see if there is anything medical contributing to your problem. In fact your doctor can direct you to someone to help you overcome the problem.

Guess what, everyone was not looking at me, I just thought they were. It took a while to begin to express myself verbally without blushing so much, but, I did succeed and you can too.

Learn all you can about "inferiority complex", you may understand it better.

lneely · 07-13-2008, 10:17 AM

@mikemanus32:

You sound like myself in my adolescence.

With respect to the previous poster, religion never helped me at all, as I had been an atheist from childhood (whether I wanted to say so or not ;p).

You're eighteen, so you can't do what I do in social situations for another three years, i.e. drink until I feel sociable. It doesn't take a lot (at all, I'm a bit of a lightweight no matter how Irish-warlord-tolerant I claim to be), and it has made me realize that I /can/, in fact, be that way but I have a lot of inhibitions.

When I felt the problem was out of control, what I did was hop on some medications temporarily. What the medicine did was put me into a state of mind to be able to accept my lack of social graces; to accept that I would never be the "life of the party," it just isn't me. I found some peace with a lot of things about myself, then got off the meds. Never needed them since.

Hate to put it this way, but you're going to have to buck up and face it instead of just letting it linger. "Facing it" might just have to include talking to someone about it whether you like it or not. See, I never gave a crap about "feelings" when it comes to facing a problem because I find them stupid, irrational, and counterproductive. I have always associated "talking about it" as being directly associated to talking about "feelings" and BS like that, so I wouldn't do so with family or friends. I always preferred someone objective/pragmatic so that sort of thing doesn't get in the way.