bone marrow transplant and personal problem - Open to All Other Health Topics Message Board

bradford66 · 09-16-2008, 06:31 AM

My ex-husband has had prostrate cancer for some time and now the cancer has spread. He has been informed by his surgeon/doctor/medical adviser that he may have to undergo* bone marrow transplant.

My query is the following. He has two sons who presumably could be asked, if it was deemed necessary, to be donor(s) in the hope that one of them would be suitable. Would I be right in assuming that one could be a suitable candidate but the other not?? My main concern is that (I will not go into the background) that one of them is not his and he is not aware of that. I want it kept that way. If one was suitable and the other not I presume it would not be ethically and morally correct to have my ex-husband informed of this??

Grateful for any advice

Lindaru · 09-16-2008, 12:19 PM

Often times blood relatives are not suitable (because their genetics match more of someone else in the family), so if the one son does not match up, there is no need for alarm. They would probably just assume that he is more compatible with you. No one needs to know anything else.

Hope this puts your mind at rest.

Lindaru