Re: not cooperating
If your boyfriend believes he cannot change, there is not much you can do. It takes him (both of you, really) deciding he wants things to be different before anything can happen.
Most of us learn some strange ways of dealing with the world as we are growing up. He must get some kind of emotional payoff from the attention he gets for obsessing about the boyfriends, gambling, saying he wants to kill himself . . . or that was the way he got attention at home . . . or something along those lines.
So what is it that attracts you to this guy?