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Old 08-11-2012, 11:46 PM   #1
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Scared again!

I'm new to this.....it's 2:39 a.m. And I'm full of worry of being sick. I just wish someone could hold me and say "you're going to be ok". I feel so alone.....my mom was diagnosed with stage 1 breast cancer and she was 80. I know she's very lucky and she's doing very well and am grateful....it's not that, I'm just soooo convinced that I will automatically get it now. my dad died when I was 18 from cancer and when someone else I know gets sick, it's like a trigger and then I go full tilt! In my mind, I've had so many illnesses, I was convinced! It's like i don't trust what docs/people have to say. That's the hard part. Everything physical symptom I catastrophize the issue.....please help me understand.....

 
Old 08-12-2012, 05:06 AM   #2
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Re: Scared again!

Do you know what the number one risk factor for breast cancer is? Age. Your mother was 80. Would you rather live to 80 and contract stage 1 breast cancer and survive it or die of "old age" in your 70's? The second is more likely than the former. your concern is misplaced. I suggest talking to a health professional and having genetic counseling to help you come to terms with your situation.

 
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Old 08-12-2012, 11:59 AM   #3
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Re: Scared again!

Statistics cannot say what WE will get regardless, and age isn't an only factor in breast cancer. But the statistics can ease some of your worries initially so that you can start thinking logically.

There are also different types of breast cancer, and the treatments for early intervention are very successful.

The reality is that you have family health knowledge to become proactive regarding what testing you need to have done to set a good baseline for now. Get copies of all your test results.

We all have fears regarding health, some never get tested or even see a doctor because they fear the possibilities. You have choices. Absolutely seek genetic counselling or with a specialist to discuss how you're feeling. Try not to make it all about fear, however, make it about the reality.

It's good to hear your mom is doing well.

What are all the other illnesses you're dealing with?

What type of cancer did your dad die from?

You have a lot to deal with both physically and emotionally... and it's understandable that your mind is going in every which direction. Hang tough, gather your strength and your supports and deal with it head on. It's scarier now than it will be once you have some answers.

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