PM doctor suggested nicely that I 'might be sick somewhere else ' !! - Pain Management Message Board

Queenneeee · 07-30-2006, 05:11 PM

I went to my PM doctor last month (I didn't post about this because it still was very upsetting) and while listening to my pain problems which I have been seeing him for 5 months and also he has my x-rays(which show no cartlidge between my pubic bones) he says very gently ... "I really hate to ask you this because I feel like I do know you but did you ever consider you might be sick somewhere else(he points to his head)" I responded " yes I might be sick in the mind because I want my old life back without pain and I miss what I was like one year ago before all this pain started,my pain makes me sad, depressed at times and forgive me selfish but the pain in my pelvis causes the pain in my mind not vice versa!!" he responded "I just had to ask" .... well I naturally came home and cried hysterically to my husband because I was so upset but I did realize he had to ask because I quess he sees that alot also... however why would he ask me that after seeing my x-rays and also knowing I have been fighting going on strong meds for quite some time now. I am just now giving in to taking stronger meds because I cann't bare the pain alone anymore. I have worked the same job for 20 years which I had to quit this year, I have three great (well normal )kids, a husband of 25 years that is understanding and yes it is very very hard for me to see that my life will never be what it was say a year ago and all I want is some help so maybe I can lead at least a semi-normal life....... I guess why I am posting this is because deep down I am still furious at my PM doctor for saying this to me !!

Fabrashamx · 07-30-2006, 06:04 PM

Oh Queen, I am so sorry he said that to you. I think what happened is that all good pain doctors try and take a holistic approach and he wanted to know how your pain is affecting you mentally, your answer was right on the money, CP is depressing and it leaves us 'crazy' in more ways than anyone not suffering can comprehend. If you have liked this doctor otherwise, I would chalk it up to poor communication skills on his part. Depression CAN make physical pain worse, but for us CPers its the question of the chicken or the egg and I think that is what he was asking in a clumsy manner. Lots of pain clinics require that you see a psychiatrist once a month, it is just there as a way to offer a whole mind and body approach to dealing with pain. Your pain is NOT in your head, and if he had your x-rays then he knows that. Good luck to you and please let us know how you are doing, we care~Fabby

Queenneeee · 07-30-2006, 06:40 PM

thanks fabrashamx it sometimes feels good just to vent and I was venting and thanks for listening !! I do realize why he might have asked about my mental state it's his job and therefore I do understand and besides he has a very difficult time communicating in English so his bedside mannerism might not be up to par . So yes I forgive and will forget what he said , I have since been back to see him however when one is in pain so severely it completely changes their life for someone to suggest it might be in your mind too was just more then I could handle that day .....I guess that is what these boards are for ..... to find someone ANYONE who really does understand and cares... thanks again