You make good points.
I tried the lidoderm, I wish they had worked! Usually the only thing that really helps me hurt less is rest/time. I get flared up doing certain things (overdoing work, too much walking) and then nothing helps but WAITING. The narcotics just make me forget about it for a while. I do ok when I am keeping busy, but when I try to relax or sleep, that's when it gets to me.
I take NSAID's with little effect, and I have had steriod injections twice. No help.

Heat doesn't help, and stretching sometimes makes it worse. I think part of my stress and frustration is the fact that nothing REALLY helps.
Eventually I hope to figure it out....