UPDATE: Another long read! Soo Sorry!
My brother has be released to come home late Saturday. He is staying at my mom's house here in town.
I'm still not convinced that he has a problem (at least one of any type of severity) with alcohol. I had my hubbs speak with him regarding his hand tremors. He indicated that the tremors started after one of the medications (don't know which one) that his PCP gave him for his High BP
. His doc indicated at that time they could change to another med, but it would "affect his sex life" and Brother simply stated, he'd "just put up with the shakes"!
On Saturday, upon being released, he had my hubbs go to his SUV to look for his computer, which we all knew was in my other sister's car, but it gave my hubbs a reason to search his vehicle high and low for any signs of beer or other alcohol. He found NOTHING
. NADA, ZERO, ZILCH! Not a drop. And he looked everywhere, under seats, in his suitcase, in his console, everwhere one might hide a bottle or a beer. None was found. In my minds eye, if he were "jonesing" there would at least be "something" hidden. He also did a once over in the room he's staying in at my mom's and found nothing.
My brother lives in Alabama, so it's not so easy to just run over to his apartment and do a "snoop job" for signs of alcholol.
I'm more inclined to believe it was a reaction to the pain meds, (maybe because at this time I just NEED
to believe that) and then to the benzos that they gave him to off-set the "shakes". I think this will be very easy to veryfiy with his prescribing doc to see if this is indeed the case. My brother did admit, that he got "ugly" with the Wed. evening nurse, and she was the one who had him restrained, and started him on the Ativan, Valium, and Librium. While he was on those medications, he was "out of his mind", talking crazy stuff. Once they got him out of the restraints, he settled WAY down, and became more like the brother I know. Once they stopped the valium, and ativan, the crazy talking stopped as well.
I know I've said it before, but my mother who has never taken a drink in her life, EVER
, had a similiar reaction to these types of medications, and even myself, when I had my two level fusion, was saying some WEIRD
stuff, and when I noticed my hubbs and daughter laughing at the things I was saying, I would get uber angry for laughing at me. And I was "tolerant" to the level of narcotics that they were giving me.
My brother has never taken anything stronger than a tylenol for a headache, and his BP medications. So, whether it's that I just can't fathom the thought of yet another brother traveling down this dangerous and unpredictable road of alcoholism, and having lost one to chirossis of the liver, and one very near death (he was just served eviction papers on Friday and is now homeless
and will NOT admit to his disease process, nor let anyone help) is just more than I can bear!
Now that this particular brother is off of the benzos and morphine, he's lucid, and is quite aware of what is going on around him. His pain medication for the hip replacement is Percocet (though I don't know what the strength is) and he is not demonstrating any type of bizarre behavior from that med. He is not in near the amount of pain that he was in PRIOR
to the surgery. He says it is a different kind of pain, (surgical pain). His pain prior to the surgery was bone on bone, and had been in pain for 5 years, and he had a very strenuous physical job where he had to walk miles a day in order to do his job. He was a railroad inspector, and had to inspect the rails. His job suggested that they put him on disability for 6 months so he can draw a full check for those six months, but in all likely hood he will not be able to go back to that kind of work. His doc (ortho) has said, IF
he does go back to his job, his hip will last AT MOSt
5 years, due to the amoutn of walking and climbing he has to do. So, in 6 months, he is probably going to put in for his retirement. He's been with the company for over 28 yrs. So he will be able to draw full benefits from what I understand.
He's only 2 years older than me...will be 50 in October. I consider that young. He's considering going back to working for Special Olympics when he retires. He was a Director for our Area Special Olympics many years, way back in the day.
Please keep him in your prayers. Like I said, I'm still not convinced, but I think it's because I have this need to protect him, and want to insure that NOT
another brother is going to go down that terrible path that my other two have traveled.
My hubbs was somewhat convinced by what he had to say, and after literally tossing about his SUV, and finding NO
evidence of alcohol in his SUV, he doubts that IF he were an alcholic, there would be SOMETHING hidden somewhere. He can't drive for weeks. And with him living in Alabama, and his not being able to get there to snoop about his apt, as you all have suggested. You'd think he'd have a stash hidden somewhere HERE
to get him by, at least till he could get home.
My hubbs is leaving tomorrow to go on another trip, and I'm so tempted to go with him, just to get away for 4 days, if nothing eles but to lay around the pool and play in the casino. I am in need of a break BIG TIme!! But I would feel terrible IF (god forbid) something happened!
I'm a big ball of mess, and it seems all I can do these last few days is cry!
I'm worn our emotionally, and physically from lack of sleep because I lay there worrying.
Continued Prayers are appreciated. Love you guys.!!!
Thanks for being there for me!
Huggles, ~!~ Becky ~!~
I think it was EX that asked, my brother is not married, and lives alone in Alabama. So there is no one to ask. The girl he is dating lives in Georgia.
Brother also did mention that as soon as he was able to drive he was going to see the hospital administrator to file a complaint against the nurse who treated him so badly, and who put him in the restraints, and adminstered the librium, ativan, and valium. So maybe something will come of that. I told him he should call the hospital admin, as I'm not sure how lown it will be before he is able to drive. Guess we will see!!!