Re: help with 7 year old girl
So far we have been lucky and have only made one major move from a base in Arkansas to a base in Utah. Of course we had little moves from an off base apartment to base housing but that wasnt a big deal for our son. We only had one son at that time and he was three when we made that big move. He did act out alot for about 6 months afterward but we figured it was due to the stress of moving. Though with the base we are at now Dh is gone alot thanks to tdys and our youngest son is effected alot by that. He is three and dh has missed two b-days and alot of time in general with him. It is strange to see a three yr old get depressed but it has happened and it will happen again since Dh is leaving this next week for four weeks. My older son does fine when he father leaves. He does miss him but it doesnt seem to effect himt he way it does his little brother.
I have made sure that both boys have at least one friend nearby that they can play with and that seems to help. One way I did that was when we first got here I had dh ask if any of the guys in his shop had kids near our son's age and I would get together with the wives and let the kids play together. It works out great because then I get to know more people in our area and my kids get some friends.
You can also look into seeing if there are any girl scout troops in your area that way she can join and make some friends that way. Or other such things she might be interested in. If your base has a youth center you can get a listing of the events they do there and see if she is interested in joining any of those. I know the one here has all kinds of things like cooking classes for set age groups,skating parties,bingo nights,preteen dances and so on.
With my oldest son I have him on two after school clubs and my youngest I am going to start going bowling with him once a week on base while his dad is gone to see if that helps in taking the edge off of missing his dad.
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