I'm not a parent myself (I'm only 14) but a lot of the time I feel like it. I had to grow up fast because I grew up in a home where my dad and older half brother were abusive and my parents argued permanently so I had to get used to doing things for myself.
When my little brother was born (he's 7 now) I often found myself getting him dressed in the morning because my parents would be arguing or bathing him or putting him to bed. Then my parents got a divorce 2 years ago. He's more grown up now though he was sorta a late developer.
I live with my dad and he just seems to have no sense of responsibility. My little brother will still be awake and messing around with his action men at 11:30 at night and my dad will just be sitting in the next room. Or my little brother screams all the time and he just doesn't say anything. He even swears and gets away with it. I feel really mean because I'm the one that ends up having to tell him to go to sleep or not to say that, or teach him table manners etc. Then my dad just shouts at me for being 'bossy'.
My little brother gets into trouble at school for bullying and since I've been seeing my mum again we have worked on that together, my mum while he's at hers, me while he's at my dad's, by talking his day through with him, what's made him angry and other ways to cope with it but my dad will just say 'oh its just a stage'
It does my head in because he goes and tells my mum about how late he's 'allowed' to stay up and when he swears and gets into trouble its 'but daddy lets me say that' and I dunno why but I end up defending my dad to her. I just wondered, am I just over reacting? Is it just a stage that I should leave my little brother alone through? Am I just being 'bossy'?
Sorry it was long, but I really am going out of my mind over it. I feel like I'm having to be a parent to him all the time
Any replies would be helpful
Love Emily x