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Old 05-26-2004, 09:03 AM   #1
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Adopted Boyfriend

My 16 year old daughter has been dating a nice young man for the last 6 months. However, from things she has said, she may be getting ready to end the relationship. I am concerned that she may not though, because he is adopted and seems sensitive to rejection. While I will let her work through these issues herself, I would like to be able to support her through this. Does anyone have any advice? Thanks.

 
Old 05-26-2004, 09:27 AM   #2
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Re: Adopted Boyfriend

just let her know that because he was adopted he has issues that she doesn't, many children who are adopted feel a sense of abandonment or rejection from their birth parents. She needs to know that that is not her fault, she needs to learn to be honest with him. If she strings him along just to keep him happy than she isn't doing anybody a favor. She needs to let him down gently, most relationships at 16 don't last and certinly aren't forever. It's just as important to him as to her for her to be honest with him rather than keep up a relationship that isn't working for her. The issues that he has are his, not hers to worry about, she should be as nice to him as possible when breaking up with him, but if she doesn't want to be with him than that's what she needs to do.

 
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Old 05-26-2004, 11:21 AM   #3
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Thanks for your quick reply. I have said those things to her previously after they discussed a problem he was having with a friend. I'll just reinforce those concepts as necessary.

 
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