I don't like that doctors office. I have to wait a LONG time! The first time at 2 weeks wasn't bad.. The second time I waited 2 hours and then they finally said the doctor will be back in about an hour.. but they would have closed by then anyways so I rescheduled...the next appt I waited and finally saw the nurse that gave him shots for his 2 months and never saw the doctor. The nurse asked questions and said he's looking great and that we'd see him again when he's 4 months.. then she looks over him one last time and sees a SOCK MARK.. she gets all paranoid and asks how long it's been there (I said over a week.. which is a long time and I have no idea why.. made me ponder as well since it wasn't too tight) it looks just like a sock mark anyways.. it's no abuse. Well, then she goes on to say she likes to see babies at 3 months as well just to check up on them and see how everything is. Umm odd...Well, now I had to cancel my appt yesterday (for his 4 month) 'cause I saw a small tiny bruise on him on his knee (no idea where it came from) but i'm so afraid they're going to point out abuse! (I never went to a 3 month appt.. I left without making one). I switched his doctor yesterday as well but they called me today asking me how he's doing and how I am doing etc.. sounded weird but whatever.. I told them I switched doctors and she asked why etc.. God.. I really would like to know what's going on or am I the paranoid one?!?
My kids have fallen all over the place and regularly go to dr.s' that way . . . the dr/nurse should be able to tell if the injury is normal accident or abuse by certain things (position on body, what you say, etc. obviously they can't ask the infant). If you have nothing to hide I don't think you should have cancelled the 4-month appt. Why do you think it is abuse they are looking for, anyway? Maybe the nurse, when she saw the sock mark, considered that the baby has a condition that she'd have to keep an eye on but because nothing is definite she couldn't tell you because she didn't want to alarm you.
Well I wish they would tell me if they thought something was/is wrong. That's why he has a doctor. The reason I suspected she was thinking abuse because she was saying how good he looks and she'd see us at 4 months but then she sees the sock mark and asks questions about it and says she'd like to see me at 3 months just to make sure he's okay and gaining weight and stuff.. it's the only thing that I could think of.
I know it's scary when you think someone might accuse you of child abuse as ANYTHING can happen. I know we have all seen movies which is usually worst case scenerios and the news etc. However, I doubt I would have changed dr.'s so quickly. Now, they might be thinking you have something to hide. Which I'm sure you don't...it just MIGHT look that way to them. Maybe you can call the office back and ask to speak to that same nurse and explain to her what you were feeling. Hopefully, she will understand and if you still would like to switch dr.s that's your call. At least, you straightned up any loose ends.
I too get a little panicky when my son has a little bruise on him or something (which clearly little babies get from exploring their new surroundings). I'm sure the nurse just saw something out of the ordinary and wanted to make sure it wasn't something potentially more serious...such as an illness. This is clearly just a misunderstanding and I'm sure it can be cleared up. But, I would think about giving the office a call back and asking to speak to that nurse. Good Luck
Has anyone heard of a sock mark not disappearing? This now makes me worry. Like I said he now has a small bruise (smaller than a penny) on his knee and he's only 4 months.. we have no idea where it came from, he doesn't crawl. Could something be wrong?! He also has a small tan spot on his forehead.. too big for a freckle.. not sure what that is. NOW I am paranoid lol
As a mother of 4, I can say that they are looking for many things. You are a mother so you are thinking abuse. The Dr is looking for everything from circulatory problems to anemia. Sometimes, subtle symptoms point to much larger medical issues. This is why they ask questions that to us as parents, dont make a whole lot of sense.
Well, now it does make me worry because he still has that sock mark. You can barely see it but it's still there. That with the bruise.. could there be something wrong with his skin?!
The reason I suspected abuse was because she said everything was great and then she sees the sock mark and then says she'd like to see me when he's 3 months and she started to ask questions and say stuff like 'well we just want to make sure he's growing good' and stuff but before they saw the mark they said he was doing wonderful. There was nothing said in the pamplet about 3 month checkups.. just 2 weeks, 2 mnths, 4 mnths, 6 mnths, 8 mnths, etc..
I hope they really don't suspect something now that I changed doctors and cancelled my 4 month appt. She even had asked what new doctor I am seeing and questioned me about why I am changing.
Please don't worry. I just wanted to point out that there are many things running through their minds that we dont even think about. I also wouldnt worry about changing Dr's. I have changed before simply because I had to wait too long and didnt agree with the way the Dr dealt with my kids.
My 4 month old daughter ended up with a fractured skull because of a sleepwalking accident with my husband (long story). I wasnt even going to take her to the hospital at first because she didnt really seem hurt as she was laughing and such, but then I noticed a bump starting to swell. The Dr. in the emergeny room( btw this was like 2am) was sure it was child abuse and called social services. It was my family Dr. who showed up at 6am to vouch for us and say we would never abuse her. I have been seeing my family Dr. at least once a week since I was 7 months pregnant, and for 2 months it was even everyday.
I love my Dr. and dont know if my daughter and I would even be here if it wasnt for her. As when I was pregnant all the specialists said I was fine, but she didnt agree, I ended up have toxemia and had to be induce 5 weeks early.
If you dont trust your Dr. I would diffinitly find a new one. Who cares what your old Dr. says or thinks. Its your child you have to worry about. I always had a wierd feeling about my OB, so I didnt listen to him I listened to my family Dr. and thank God I did. Your own intuition is usually right, go with what you think is best for yourself and your baby