Re: kids meeting someone new
i do think the you should know a guy for a bit before he meets the kids. But really it's up to you and where you think the relationship is going. If you guys both seem serious about it and are getting along then i don't see any problem introducing him. You do need to be careful about how you introduce him...of course do it as a friend, but i wouldn't include him in everything. THe kids may get attached to mommies new friend...so make sure he isn't around constantly. If the relationship grows more serious tell the kids that mommy and her friend love eachother and want to spend more time together and ask them what they think about that. As long as you keep in mind that if you break up with him then so do the kids than it will be ok.