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Teresa882003 · 06-16-2004, 10:54 AM

Platnium, try not to stress over it right now. You haven't delivered that long ago. Try to sit back and enjoy her right now. Like you said, school won't start until September. I am sure it will be hard and you will have to sacrifice things but you can go to school and work and still have a loving, wonderful, nuturing relationship with your daughter. You will be receiving child support as well, right? So maybe you won't have to work too many hours and if its at night, maybe it will be while she is sleeping and you won't miss much. And you won't have to worry about her while she is with your Mom. As far as her at daycare or babysitters, I think its normal what you feel. I know I will have to return to work after the baby is born, and I am very lucky that my Mom will be watching my baby. But there is still the guilt or leaving him and the thought of what I will miss while working, but it can't be helped. Just make the best of the time you will have. I don't think you have anything to worry about, I am sure you have already formed a bond and it will only grow stronger. Enjoy your 3 months with her now and try not to worry about things you have no control of. Have comfort in the fact that your concern shows how much you care and want whats best for the both of you. You will make the right decisions when the time comes.

Bren- I hadn't given any thought to strangers touching my baby, I know I will FREAK if/when it happens. Some people have no sence. I know I talk to babys/toddlers, but I would never dream of touching someone's child that I didn't know.

From my previous post when I talked about people holding the baby, I know I will have no problem with my Mom or Sister or my Dad etc, even some of my friends and co workers. My biggest problem will be with my husbands family, we aren't exactly close and I saw how they did with his sister's baby and I know that I will not want or allow them to pass my newborn around like a rag doll!!! But I am sure I will tick one or more of them off in the process, not that I care except for my husband being in the middle.

haleysmum · 06-16-2004, 12:19 PM

Hi again

I was thinking its a pity you dont have some child care facilities on campus ?????? That way then you would be nearby at all times....
Getting back to who we trust our babies with, I would definately trust my mother but she moved within a few months of me having my daughter so its not really an option for me to leave my daughter with her if I ever need a break , but I do plan on leaving her with mum for a night when I go into have this baby

I definately trust my sister but she has her own hands full, like I already mentioned she has a 14 month old and also works.....The reason I wouldnt leave her when my FIL offered to watch her is because I have distrust of men in general ( whole other topic ) I will never ever leave my daughter with any male (family or not !) Except my partner of course

He watches her for a couple of hours every couple of weeks so I can get out for a while on my own ! The reason I am lucky enough to stay at home platinum is that I have a partner who works and can afford to support us THANK GOD ! I dont know your personal situation but do you still speak to the babies daddy ? Could he help out with looking after your baby occasionally while your at school ? I know its a tough call about deciding wether to put off studying

I guess what you have to weigh up is how much you want to be there for your babies first couple of years or how much you will REALLY need your education as in getting a job etc....If your mum is there for you and would sit for you at night for you to get part time work maybe its an option you do need to consider if you just cant bare the thought of leaving your baby?????

Belkin · 06-16-2004, 06:45 PM

When out in public with babies, drape a light weight receiving blanket over the carrier. This will keep people from being tempted and will keep germs from falling on the baby. The blanket will be loose all around allowing for fresh air.

When eating in resturants, choose a table in corner and be sure and sit in the corner chair far away from waitress hands or others.

When you notice strangers hands moving in direction of the baby, tell them immediately not to touch. I personally admire babies from a far distance, just in case I might be harboring germs I am not aware of. Wish others would do the same.

Brooke~Lynn · 06-22-2004, 09:11 PM

hi platinium, i just want to say, i am 19 and just had my first baby (a girl) last october and she is now nearly 9 months, but i was the same way i wouldnt let ppl touch or hold my baby, i wouldnt let ppl watch her and i even stopped letting ppl in my house! i really lost my mind, i found out i had OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) i have been in therpy and on meds as well to help with the anziety, and i strogly recomend that you talk to you doctor about your anziety right now, you may feel much better if you could take something (as i do) i am on a VERY low dose of paxil cr and it really really really helps me deal with the anziety and makes me a better mother all around.
and about the grems...i sanitized everything like crazy, well my baby didnt get sick but now her imune system is not built up like it should be and she gets every little cold and bug there is out there.....try to remeber that babies NEED germs to be srtong, and when you start freaking out just try to tell yourself that! you are lucky to have you baby in the summer, i had mine right before winter in the midst of that terrible flu epidemic going around and babies dying, i was scared to death! but really consider talking to your doc, ohh and just so ya know paxil IS considered SAFE for a breastfeeding mother to take

ok now about going back to school...GO GO GO GO GO !!!!!!!!
there are GOOD babysitters out there and you will find out, dont miss out on going to school right now, like i am

dont get me wrong, i love being here with my daughter, but it is hard knowing that i only have a high school diploma which may get me a real good job at the local grogery store making pennies an hour (luckly i have a wonderful fiance (the babys dad) with a great job to support us all)......STAY IN SCHOOL GIRL!!!!
you dont want to have to depend on your parents or anyone for that matter.....
and plus you will be so glad you will have the money to take your little girl shopping for new school clothes when she goes!

so if you read nothing else just know these three things

1. BABIES NEED GERMS TO BUILD A HEALTHY IMMUNE SYSTEM
2. ASK YOUR DOCTOR FOR SOME ANZIETY MEDICATION (and i mean that in the nicest way

)
3. STAY IN SCHOOL!!!!!

and good luck to you, i hope it all works out.

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