Grr! I and many lefties have had this problem-- it's literally insult heaped upon injury
. Here's a view: Many people alive today remember the fate of left-handed children in many schools earlier in this century. In my father's time, many left-handed children literally had their left arms tied to their bodies during the first few years of school so they could learn to write "properly" with their right hands. They were, of course, suffering from what was believed to be a defect of brain wiring: left-handed disorder.
I remember a friend, now in his late 70's, telling me with tears in his eyes what a humiliating and painful experience it was to be so segregated from his peers, what a struggle it was to try to cut paper for art class or learn good penmanship, and how he was labeled a "slow learner" because he was focusing so much of his energy on trying to use his right hand.
While it's obvious to us all what a wounding experience not fitting into those schools left-handers had, most miss entirely how painful it is for ADHD children in today's public schools. The brains of ADHD children are not wired to be good items for an assembly line, and they don't fit into the factories that our schools have become.
Talk about frustration! A person with ADD, perhaps mood swingy, probably depressive because of both, then having misguided 'schooling' 'behavioral correction' added to that by short-circuiting his natural tendency to be left-handed
LE(f)T me say that again: Grr! Here's what happened in my
brain: "ok if this pencil were in my left hand where would it go rounding this "f" on the top side from right to left and then --wait-- no that's right-- right to left, then down and then circle around LEFT to RIGHT. Oooohhh!!! ARGH. OK. [Wait, teacher's saying I'm too slow.] [Ooohh panicking! Hurry up, me!] Ok, just do it. [[Right handed brain writes "f" right-handed while thinking left-handed and each teeny tiny movement is re-called, re-translated, re-directed]]...oooohhh!! I'lll nEVER get this. I'm going to have to just quit. I didn't even get the top of the "F". I'm going to GET and F. [Brain instructs left-hand to throw pencil down on desk. Left hand takes pencil from right hand and throws pencil on desk.... Brain smolders..Left-hand brain thinks right-hand brain is stupid...left-hand brain apologizes to right-hand brain/left-hand brain was just reeally frustrated/right-hand brain says ok i understand but I'M the one who's been humiliated!..left-hand brain says [depressively, dejectedly]...yeah, I know and says to teacher 'I'm sorry mr/ms x, I'm sorry I just can't GET this!!....."
That the teacher is standing directly over the child at his/her desk and that alone is a form of humiliation and drawing attention once again to the fact that s/he has a 'problem' is an issue but not while the child is intensively involved in the exercise. Even afterwards, when the child's brain is racing through the re-experience trying desperately to figure out how COULD it be done 'correctly' in time. Grr!
And that's just ONE, albeit micro-mini panick attack. I used to get my toes drumming in my shoes a mile a minute while i was trying to do the letters. Why!? Concentration. I had to re-iterate this mental re-training cycle so fast that it was necessary to keep my attention on my body somehow so that I wouldn't lose focus. I know. Strange. Teachers often interpret the frustration and agitation in situations like this as further evidence that a child has a 'faulty' brain. There's another heaping of injury on insult on injury. Now, the child is not only faulty and requires remediation but is faulty because he can't be remediated without frustration and signs of ANGER.
Child then has to suppress showing signs of anger so that teacher will not further isolate and injure child. Child starts drumming toes and fingers while sitting in class, even when not having to be doing re-writing. Teacher is watching child. Teacher is thinking child is agitated. Child is knowing that teacher is watching and seeing that child is agitated.
And this goes on ALL the time, EVERY day until something breaks the cycle.
Sorry to get so agitated-like. Maybe I don't have to tell you what it's like/you already know. But just in case you don't, I hope you do now. It's a mental nightmare. In my mind this is a form of trauma. The effects on a child are exactly the same. They get triggered at the very thought of having to be re-trained on anything 'remedial'. Think about the dread a child starts to feel when starting another exercise, knowing in advance that it's going to turn into a disaster the outcome of which is GUARANTEED to be traumatic. Think about how this child's mind is trying to RUN AWAY AND HIDE!! Pre-panic, heart-pounding a bit. Fingers and toes drumming. Johnny are you ok? Settle down over there! ok ok i can be calm. i hate this but i can do it. i can be calm.
See, this keeps coming back and back.... Teachers, not just teachers really do NOT get this part. It's a form of ignorance in the very people that (a) ought to know better, and (b) are in charge of your DS/DD for long periods of time. Hmmmm....what's wrong with this picture? This is not to blame
or single-out teachers, but to focus attention on the plight of the child. It could be any 'socially remediative' context-- and there are many. I once had a coach make me put my left-hand in my pants and then play catch with him with my right hand. And then I got 'good' enough to play in the game. Oh yeah, with one hand in my pants. Insult on injury insult on injury.