Hi everyone, i am new to this forum but I have a question.
My daughter is 8 yrs old. I know that anytime now she will start going through some of her physical changes. I think that she has started "breast bud", she has already started with BO. When is the right time to talk to her about these things, I have talked with her about the body odor but how do I broach the subject about everything else? When is the right time for training bras?
I was an early developer, by her age I was already in a B cup, and by 9 I started my period.
I know many of you will think that I should have already had this discussion with her, but I am hesitant because I am afraid that I may be jumping the gun?
Does anyone have any suggestions?
I would talk to her now, especially if you started your period so early. It sounds like she's almost ready to start her's anyhow. I don't really have any advice on how to talk to her though. My mum never told me anything! I found out what's what the day I started my period, from my very British granny. Just make sure you do talk to her soon.
Steph, mum of Emma- March 14, 2003
if she's already got the breast buds than it's just about time for a training bra....how you approach would depend on your daughters personality. If she's shy you may want to just go out and buy her a training bra (this is how my other did it) and give it to her. As far as periods you do need to talk asap, maybe find a book the the library? If she likes to read you can find a good book on puberty and let her read it and let her know she can ask you whatever questions she may have, or you can tell her any stories you have of being her age and going through all of that stuff.
If you guys have an open relationship and she's not shy at all you can do a girls day out, go shopping, buy her a bra, have her pick out the one that she likes (let her know that she doesn't absolutly have to wear it now, i was very shy with wearing it when i got one, but soon she will have to wear it all of the time), go out for luch, talk to her about periods, puberty etc...make a whole day out of it. Just let her know you guys are going to have a girls day and you'll talk about girly things and the changes her body is making while going through puberty, you'll buy a bra etc.
Just follow her leads as far as how much to tell her and don't push the subject if she's not ready...she does need to know about periods asap tho, if she starts as young as you did she'll be very freaked out if she starts and doesn't know what is going on or is too shy to ask you for pads etc.
Last edited by MandyAnne26; 06-22-2004 at 04:10 AM.
I would tell her about puberty soon. I had to find it out on my own. The American Girl book the "The Body Book" I think it is called is really informational on those kind of things! That is how I learned about periods, BO, etc. My mom was too embarissed(sp) to talk to me about it. I would encourage you to do so...it will make her feel more comfortable to talk to you about things later in life.
My mom simply just bought me a training bra, and one night she gave it to me and explained the whole puberty thing. I would simply buy her one and tell her why she needs to wear it and what physical changes her body will start going threw.