Your truly welcome
Another thing that I find very helpful is to change my strategy sometimes. I would tell them to go and pick up something and it took me telling them over and over again. Finally, I would either yell at them about it or go in and do it myself. I learned that if I sit in there with them and name something to pick up, they do it and I am not stressed. I just finally realized that I have to stay in there guiding every move and eventually they will learn how to do it without me being in there. Another thing that really helps me is to just look at the next 24 hours. They are growing and changing each day and one day they won't need us like they do now, so I try to make the most of these days so that we will all have precious memories of this time.
I also say phooey on the house during the day. We work best when we are all in the same room. Everyone stays calm and clothed!!LOL I get on top of fights most of the time before they get out of hand. They also know that time out is an option. Then I stay up later at night and work on things around the house. I can do it then without 1000 interruptions so it gets done quicker. I also made a play date every Tuesday and Thursday with a friend of mine so we all get out of the house. Cabin fever really sets me off so I try to head it off before it starts. Sometimes I feel like the only reason I was put on this earth is to take care of children, like I have lost myself in the process. Getting out of the house really helps that feeling. It's like a natural antidepressant.
DH used to be really short with the kids too. Now he also has his little rituals. He owes them one story a night. Sometimes its in the evening and sometimes its when they go to bed. He gives them at least 15 minutes of listening to their stories about their day and whatnot. We found that just giving that time to them really calmed them down. If we dont set time aside for them, we are all going mad all day while they beg for it. It just works for us to make the time and stop all of the chaos.
It is not hard to see how much you love your kids. No, yelling at them isnt good for them and yes, it means that you have lost control BUT it is easy to understand how easily it comes when you are overwhelmed.
Good luck to you guys