Re: Putting my 2 year old in developmental daycare
Find a daycare that will allow you to spend the first week or two with him, however long he needs to be comfortable being left there, keeping in mind he probably will cry the first few times you leave him there, but a good center knows how to deal with that and if he's had a good deal of time to get accustomed to the place he wont cry long. Also, a daycare that will allow you to drop in or spend the day whenever you feel like it. I know the daycare my daughter was in was really great, there was a mandetory 3 day orientation i guess you could say, the first day the child was only there untill lunch, the 2nd day the child had lunch there, the 3rd they stayed all day...the parents were there durring this transition. And of course if you needed longer you got it, my daughter didn't even need the 3 days and stayed for lunch the first day and stayed all day alone the 2nd, but she was usual in that way from other 3 year olds...she's still like that at almost 6. I think daycare is a great thing when the child is old enough, it teaches independance, social skills and that they can survive without mommy and daddy. I think the most important thing is to get your son used to being around the teachers at the daycare, the children and of course the center, it needs to be a familier place not an unknown scary place for him. As long as you find a center that will allow you to go at his pace than you should be fine.
Putting your child in daycare is not failing them, if you find a good one it can have wonderful benifits. Children tend to be copy cats, so if there is a child there who can say words your son can't or do things your son can't he will pick up on what that child learns. They learn to be independant from you, which you will be glad he has learned when it comes time for school. The social skills they learn are very valuable in life and will also be a great help when he goes to school. My daughter wasn't a slow learner i would say, she's very smart, but she wasn't saying too much when i first put her in daycare at 2, after being around kids who talked better than she did her verbal skills really picked up. And if your not comfortable with everyday maybe 2-3 days a week would work good? Maybe help to ease your guilt.