4-year old - innocent playing with cousin?
My four-year old boy is very close friends with his 5-year old cousin, who happens to be a girl. Last week, the two of them marched off toward the bathroom together, announcing that they had sticky hands from dessert and needed to wash them. But my wife confronted them and she found out they were really heading to the bathroom to show each other their privates. My wife got angry with them and told them not to do such a thing, and that was that.
I confronted my wife after this, saying I believed what they were doing wasn't something to yell at them about, and that it's innocent exploration that I and many other people did when we were kids to no ill effect. My wife never did this as a kid, however, and I think she's a bit uptight about the issue. She said if our son showed his genitals to his cousin, he'd think it's OK to show them to anyone.
I disagreed, saying I had girl friends as a child who I played with in this manner and never had the urge to do such a thing with anyone else. I'm not saying she should have let them go off to the bathroom once she found out what was going on. I just think she shouldn't give them a complex about it, and if it happens, no harm done.
Am I in the right, here, or am I being too loose with the rules?
Last edited by danimal15; 09-22-2004 at 08:32 AM.