Re: how do we tell our son his dad is not his "real" dad? update...we told him
Ok I went back found the post and read, My situation is different than most of these. the guy is not a jerk. He was not a druggy, I left because of many reasons like my family hated him because his mother was gay, i knew we would never be able to blend out families..... Plus I wanted to be with my husband (now). I was an idiot to make the choice I made to never give him a chance to be there. But my family made me believe he would try to take him from me, so I just dissappeared and made sure he could never take him even if he wanted to. So we got married before the baby was born. My son does not know this person never seen him. I have so many family members who know about this and opened their big mouths over the years to new people. that is why I know I have to tell him, before someone else does someday. And also I wanted the real BF to have the chance I never gave him. He assumed that when I left it was because I cheated and the kid wasnt his. But thats not why I left. So he assumed he didnt have any kids. I have talked to the BF since all this started really weighing heavily on me. as I said he was floored to say the leats, Says he wishes he could have been there from the beginning, but does not think he shoul djust POP in now because he already has a father. We are still up in the air as to if and when or what if anything is going to take place. He lives in CO I live in CA. He only moved out there 2.5 years ago. Anyways this is my big big mess. what the heck am I going to do????????? pray pray and pray some more!