Re: my daughter stole money!
Stealing is stealing, doesn't matter how much or what it is. That is something judge judy always says that sticks with me...it doesn't matter if it's a candy bar or a car, it is still taking something that belongs to someone else.
I think that what her dad said was true, like dr phill says her whole world needs to come crashing down on her...if you say well it was the first time she did it and don't punish hard enough there will be no real deterent for her not to do it again. I went through a stealing phase when i was younger, i would go to my grandmothers and she'd have change and money laying around so i'd take some here and there (not that i needed to my grandfather would give me spending money whenever i was there, i spent alot of time with them), when i got older i'd start taking makeup and things like that, well, one day she was in my room...she noticed her makeup there, she had expensive makeup that i wouldn't have had hte money to buy, she embarrised me so bad that i never thought about doing it again, we went out to dinner with her friends and she mentioned it to them, not a big deal, but she mentioned it, i was horrified, needless to say i never did it again. I also got caught shoplifting when i was 14, my first and only time i got caught, i got taken home in a police car, well, i never did that again either. My now 10 year old son went into a pizza place (by his school busstop) last year when he was 9, he went in there told the woman behind the counter that we don't feed him and asked for a slice of pizza. Well, later that night his step dad went in to get something, Adrian (my son) had to go to the washroom, the woman behind the counter told his step dad that he had been in there earlier and told him the story. We made my son go back in an appolgise, and promise to never go into the pizza place again without me or his dad. The woman didn't see the big deal, but as far as i was concerned he stole, he told a lie to get what he wanted for free, that is stealing. He was so embarrised at having to go and appologise that he never did anything like that agian.
When it comes to things like that, illegal things, things that cause her to be untrustworthy etc need to be delt with in a way that makes her not only understand how wrong it is but make her not want to do it again.