I need some good advice! My son is 14 months old, I spent the first 6 months at home and my hubby works a different shift than I so Aaron is pretty much with us all of the time. There was a 3 hour lap that we needed to find a babysitter. My mother in law watched him for quite some time. She informed us a couple of weeks ago that this was basically watching him everyday was cramping her style. WHATEVER! So I called the community child care connection and got a list....I found someone that I actually knew! Yeah! So we went the week before and meet her while my husband stayed there with my son so that he could meet her and get to know that surroundings. Then the next week we took him on Monday now remember that he is only there for 3 hours a day. For the first 30 min he was fine, then he realized that his daddy wasnt coming back and he stood at the door and screamed and yelled DADA. The next day he at least played a little but for the most of the time he yelled at the door. Today he regreesed back to the first day. Then to make matters worse when I go to get him him he is a bear!!!!!!!! He wont eat, play.....all he does is cry. I dont know if he is feeling like we have deserted him and he hates us. Are we traumatizing him? I can not seem to make him happy even hours after he has been home. What have I done wrong? Is there anything that I can do or am I as bad of a mom as I feel? HELPPPPPPPPPPP PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!
I say stick with it a bit longer. My son was in daycare from 2-6 months. No problem...too young to really know what was going on. Then I lost my job and stayed home for a while. He went back to the same daycare at 16 months and had quite a hard time for a few weeks! I never had to drop him off as I was working the early shift, but he cried and cried when my hubby left. At nap time when everyone else layed down he had to be held and rocked and read to everyday for almost a month. I guess he didn't play too much with the other kids, just kinda kept to himself. (but he's always been a very shy cautious boy) When I would pick him up he would be happy for about 2 mintues and then would start to cry. Cry all the way home. Cry once we got in the door. It took sometime for him to get used to it.
They are at the age where they really get used to routine and you've thrown a huge kink in his routine...he just needs some time to get used to it. Of course he is going to be upset...all he has known is that he gets to spend all day with either mommy or daddy. But I bet that he will slowly get used to it, like learning anything else in his life. As for his mood, I'm not sure what you should do, just keep trying different things. At first I realized that my son just wanted his binky when I picked him up from daycare (as they can't use them there) Then after a few weeks I realized that he was always hungry/thirsty when I got him as his last snack is about 3 hours before I pick him up. If I don't have that drink and snack for him in the car he goes insane. Your son doesn't hate you...the problem is how much he LOVES you!! You have done such a good job with him that he doesn't want to spend anytime away from you. Good luck...it will get better.