Teenager / drugs
Help. My son has always been a good kid, making good grades, good friends, outgoing personality, funny, etc.
I am a single mother and have been since my son was 5. We have a very close (or so I thought) relationship and are very open regarding sex, drugs, alcohol.
It all started with an incident a few months ago in which I found a note in my son's room .......Yes, I read it. In the note, it stated "I wish you wouldn't smoke before school" ......In my wildest dreams, I never would have thought the smoking referred to pot. I was angry when he came home, however, started the conversation as "Why are you smoking" ....(of course thinking ciggarettes), he looked at me and then said "I only did twice", the way he said it or the look on his face made me question "What are you smoking" ....it came out, he and his "good" friends BOUGHT pot and smoked it. There was enough for one "joint" and the three of them shared it.
Of course, I called each of the parents, as we have all known each other since our children were in 1st grade and have all been close. We all met with the kids set them down and had a "heart to heart" ....At the end of the conversation, I was convinced this was a "one time" offense. Peer pressure in school and my son, as were his friends, were aware of the dangers, consequences, etc.
Since that time, I have kept my eyes open, watching for signs, etc. Continuing to have talks with my "open, honest" son.
Yesterday, I receive a phone call from the school. My son is under the influence and needs to be picked up. EXCUSE ME.
Oh yes, another female student brought her prescription drugs to school for ADHD, (adderall???) and proceeded to pass them out. My son and his "good" friends took them. Of course, other students know and tell. The all get called up to the office, the police are there. And the police proceed to interview each child individually. ......Mind you, not that this matters, as this is more about my son doing drugs, however, I want to mention, that the police interviewed each child seperately and told each of them they had witnesses and if they did not tell the truth they were going to jail. My son is the only one that admitted taking the prescription and now my son is expelled from school.
I feel like such a failure as a parent. What can I do differant? What have I done wrong? What can I do in the future?
My son will now be going to a secondary school "abeyance" for the remainder of the school year with all the other "bad" kids.
I've sent him to my sisters for the next few days as I am so livid, I am afraid to see him right now.
We had a conversation yesterday, however, I do not think he realizes the seriousness of what he has done, considering "ALL THE KIDS IN SCHOOL DO IT"
I'm so stressed !!