Re: Just need some encouragement
Please don't hate me for this, but I've been a step-mom of 5 for 16 years! My husband and I agree that this was the BIGGEST mistake of our lives - tho we love eachother very much! I bit my tounge for years when I'd hear, "Why does my Mommy hate you?" It went on from there and has become TRAGIC! And this is even after her/her husband, my husband/me actually got along! She ALWAYS found ways to bad-mouth their dad (& he was an overly-involved Dad) and now that they're grown (22, 22, 20, 18, 16 & pregnant!!!!) they realize all the rotten things their mom did, but are forever loyal to her! I'm EXTREMELY hesitant to say all of this to you, but if I knew then what I know now, we'd have NOT gotten married. Not until the kids were all grown. Again, I'm sorry you have to hear this, but this is how it is more often than not. Especially if bio mom's bashing her already! BUT one way that could work is if you went for full custody. We wanted the kids to live with us - and they did for a while - (Mom kicked them out numerous times - just dropped them off at the house.) We did go for custody, but by the time the hearing came, she was "over it" and wanted them back. We now say we should've just done it! It would've been the best thing for the kids.