I do not want to get too nosey, but is her Mother in the picture? If so, do you have a good relationship with her? If so, maybe the two of you can figure out what needs to be taught at this time. It is imortant that she not get mixed signals from 2 seperate households. (just a thought)
Has she been asking questions about sexual things yet? I have a 2 year old and I am already wondering when to start and what to start with. I have already taught her that she has a vagina. Her daddy gets upset with me when she points to it and I tell her what it is. I just think it is best to be honest. We do not make up funny little names for our ealbows or our ears.....so why should we for a vagina or a penis?
I also have talked with her Child Developement Specialist and she said that she has had to appear in several court cases involving sexual abise in children. She said that she has seen many sex offenders walk away scott free because a child did not use the correct terminology for their sexual parts. The court sayd that when they say "HOO-HOO" (regarding their vagina) that they could be talking about anything and there is no way to be sure that they were really ever molested. So she said that it is very importnant that they know exactly what they have and what it is called.
I wish you luck in this journey!
Let us know what you decide.