We are a family of 3 & for some reason, people feel the need to tell us that it is time for us to have another baby!
I have a medical condition that keeps me from being able to carry a baby to full term. I was lucky enough to carry my daughter up to 32 weeks before I delivered her at 3 pounds. I have been told that I have a 22% chance of being able to carry another baby that far.
We have decided against risking that. I do not think that we could handle having a baby so early that it will not be able to survive. Since we know the odds and we went through so much with my daughter we just do not feel like we should attempt to have another. Even though we would love to have several more.
I feel very blessed that my 2 year old is healthy and happy & we are very happy with our family the way it is. But, I do get sad and it does in fact bother me, that we will not be having anymore.
How do people have the nerve to make such comments? They my not know the reason for us stopping at 1 child, but why is it any of their concern? I am on the verge of writting to Dear Abby to find out the best way to handle these people. This is just such a personal and private matter for a couple that I would never think of giving my opinion in the matter.
I have even gone as far as to lie to people when they do ask about more children just to avoid the dirty & confused looks. I just say that one of these days........& then try to leave it at that.
Then I have family & even a few friends that try to convince me that Doctors allways make mistakes and they are just wrong about the strength of my cervix!
Then there are others who try to tell us that we could allways adopt another. Not that I am agaonst adoption.....BUT WHO SAYS WE HAVE TO HAVE MORE THAN 1 CHILD?????? I mean GEEESH! The last time I checked, being an only child was in no way, shape, or form some sort of child abuse!
I sorry for venting, but thanks for letting me. I just ran into 4 different people in town today and I had to have to same "visits" 4 different times. & the funny thin that each and everytime I walked away feeling a bit sad for my sweet little daughter. They just make you feel like she is ALL ALONE & has nobody to play with.
How should I handle these people? I thought a short medical explination would suffice, but they do not even except that. I am just on the verge of being flat out rude! WHY NOT? They are being rude!