KK......Goody has been in your two shoes for some time now. Welcome to what I call "The Meanager Years"!!!!!
I've come to this board just like you for advice for the same issues you are dealing with. I have two girls 13 & 16, and I have to say that these years are by far the most challenging years I have ever had to face. And the best advice I can give you is hold onto your sense of humor if you still have one intact
Just today my 16 year old came out of the computer room after creating her virtual SIMS family....she smiled and asked if I needed any help with dinner (two very rare occurrences in this household). I looked at her and asked her how her little family was that she put so much effort into creating....were the teens lipping off at her or causing her sleepless nights etc. I laughed and she laughed with me too. It's a rare occasion that we're able to do this but I relish it as I do all the good things that come in life (which lately seem to be less than I would like).
JUST WANTED TO LET YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT ALONE....it may feel as if you are on another planet but from what I hear in about 5 more years we will be more appreciated once they are on their own and see that it is not as wonderful as they thought it would be paying bills, working a job, having a ton of responsibilities etc. And I also read an article that said the brains of teens are not as large in the memory center....like remembering to be thankful, respectful, selfless etc. So there is hope....we just have to remember that we love them and that they need us to show them the way and that it will come back to us all that we do....in the future. So...hang in there KK and know that you are not alone....Goody