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Old 01-31-2005, 10:19 AM   #1
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7yearold STEALING what to DO?

Well,...... I have a BIG problem.My son just started to take money whenever given the opportunity,as well as little trinkits.In a months time,he has taken 10$ and 7$ inc. from his Aunt and 20$ from his Dad.This child is only 7 years old!

I've tried punishing him by making him do chores around the house. I have explained to him that you have to work and earn money,you cant just take it.THATS NOT WORKING.He likes the chores ,he says.I talk to him till I am blue in the face,nothing is getting through to him.
He has ADHD so normaly hes compulsive in nature.So I have that to deal with.Some days hes a handful other days hes great.He is making A's and B's in school.The teacher says he talks out of turn alot........ .

I'm hoping someone will read this and offer some well needed suggestions.
Thankyou for your time.

 
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Old 01-31-2005, 10:41 AM   #2
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Re: 7yearold STEALING what to DO?

My niece is having the same problem with her 7 yr old daughter, but she has started taking things from the store. She must be good at it because me niece doesn't notice until they get home. (Her daugher also has ADHD)
She sat her down and explained to her that stealing is wrong. The last time she did it, my niece took her back to the store and made her give it back. The store (per my niece's request) asked that a store "cop" handcuff her and take her to the store office just like they would with an adult. It scared her daughter to the point that she hasn't done it since. I know your son isn't taking things from a store, but maybe you could "scare" him a little bit and tell him he could be arrested for stealing.

 
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Old 04-11-2005, 08:31 AM   #3
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Re: 7yearold STEALING what to DO?

Hi
It's been a couple of months since your post, just wondering how it is going.
your child sounds like a carbon copy of mine -down to the last detail! Im hopeing that it is all age and developmentally appropriate or something but am nervous as to how to combat it as well. did you get any good "working" suggestions?
have a great day!!
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Old 04-11-2005, 09:24 PM   #4
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Re: 7yearold STEALING what to DO?

When my 12 year old was about 5 and she was doing the same thing. I did exactly what susieq's family member did and I can say it worked also. She hasn't since then ever took anything that wasn't hers. Well she may try to sneak my makeup every now and then, but usually she asks. LMG

 
Old 04-14-2005, 09:25 PM   #5
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Re: 7yearold STEALING what to DO?

This is very common amoung children and we can teach them not to do it. I think for some they learn quickly and others take longer. I like the idea of adding chorse. However how about doubling the amount to return. So for example $10.00 stolen or an item of that value. Well he she now has to work off that $10.00 plus $10.00 more. So the original value plus the double is returned to the rightfull owner. As far as enjoying the chorse..perhaps take away some other privilages until the work is done. So for example no T.V..i'd try very hard to find something he or she does not enjoy doing and lay that one on. Maybe he she could give up something of theirs for good. That favorite action figure gets donated to a charity and you gotta work of the value of what you have taken...at any rate for most kids this stuff does pass.
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Old 04-25-2005, 06:42 PM   #6
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Re: 7yearold STEALING what to DO?

I am having a new baby in three days. My first. I think you got some great advice on here. I will remember it too. thanks.

 
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