Re: the talk
I agree with pcantona that this is a very individual thing. But I'm not sure I'm convinced that 11 is too young for many kids. My son was 11 last year when we decided it was time to be more proactive. Incidentally his school at the same time decided to move their initial sex education class to grade 5 (age 10-11) for the first time. Some parents were uncomfortable with this but the evidence was unfortunately clear that sexual activity was occurring (and the inevitable consequences being seen) at younger ages.
We bought two books to help us: It's Perfectly Normal by Robie H. Harris and What's Happening to my Body? by Linda Madaras. The latter comes in boys and girls editions. The first one combines boys and girls and also is much more lively: an irreverent style and lots of colourful pictures. Some may find it too explicit or be put off by its tongue-in-cheek approach but it is, in my opinion, much more accessible for pre-teens.
I read the first chapter with my son and had a couple of brief discussions with him then simply left the book in his room for him to read (or not) as he wished. The Madaras book we're holding in reserve for when there's evidence he needs more in-depth information. So far he and most of his friends are still at the giggling, don't-you-really-hate-her, kind of phase in their girl talk but they're growing up fast (gulp). Good luck!
Last edited by rfj120; 02-08-2005 at 01:30 AM.