My son will be 2 next month...he's generally a very good kid. But there are times when he needs to be disciplined, and time outs just aren't working...he thinks they're funny most time or seems completely unbothered by them. I don't believe in spanking. Any suggestions?
Does he have a favorite toy or game... maybe you could take that away for the day as consequence for bad behaviour?? My little one is 3 months so I dont have to deal with those kind of issues but I dont believe in spanking either.. if time outs arent working then try taking away things that are important to him.. as mentioned above a toy or game .. maybe even a fav treat like ice cream.. you have to find out what works and then use that.. good luck..
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Shannon
Married DH - February 10, 2004 DD Avery Born - November 23, 2004
I've thought about taking away his blanket...but it's not something he has constantly with him, so I'm not sure how to go about doing it...It wouldn't work if he did something, and then an hour later when he wants is blanket I say no because he did something naughty...he wouldn't remember...and it wouldn't show an immediate consquence for doing something wrong.
Hmmmm....
Yes you know I never even thought of that... lol.. I guess it would work best with older children... hmmm I hope someone with children around this age can better answer your question... there has to be something out there that works...
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Shannon
Married DH - February 10, 2004 DD Avery Born - November 23, 2004
I don't know why you say he needs to be disciplined, but whatever he's doing just try taking him away from the situation. Bring him outside to play, get a little basketball goal or something for you to play inside with him. Reading to them is always good. If he's throwing tantrums, one thing my grandmother used to do with me that worked is to throw one back. Just start crying and stomping your feet and all that. Just not in a frightening way, do it comically. I know it's much easier now to send him to his room and whatnot, but if you refrain from this kind of discipline now, he will be much more responsible and easier to handle as he gets older. Respect his needs, and in time, he will respect yours.
My son is 3 1/2 and time outs dont phase him either so now we have him put his nose to the wall. Its not a very comfy position so its a little more effective than the time out chair.
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married 6/26/04
DD born 5/25/05
I have a 3 year old girl. Time-outs are a joke. Threats make the parent look weak and desparate. I use punishments sparingly. Really, what you want to do is to arrange things so that misbehavior is avoided. Don't stay at home all day and then wonder why he's getting naughty, for instance. Give him something to do. If misbehavior seems imminent, re-direct his energy. Especially at 2, a short explanation plus a quick re-direction is much more valuable than punishment.
What exactly does your son do that he needs discipline for? Specific circumstances require different handling. If your son grabs another child's toy, you can say 'that's not your toy' and at the same time removing the toy from his hand. Once you do this enough, he will start to understand.
Married DH - February 10, 2004
DD Avery Born - November 23, 2004
