| | Need help to get over jealousy and bitterness.
I have posted this before - but still am having problems. I am a stepmother of a wonderful little girl. I have been in her life for 4 years and I have been the actual "mother" to her. Her bio mom was not around and not much of a mother until now. When it's her weekend to see her - the mom buys her toys and takes the child everywhere she wants to go. She actually spoils her to no end!! Of course the child is eating this up!! My concern - which I don't want to be selfish - I am glad the bio mom is now in her life and trying to act like a mom but I am scared the child will not like me anymore. Her father & I don't spoil her and buy her everything - we show her the love, the caring, keeping her in good health and basic needs of food, shelter, etc. I am withdrawing from the child now because I have a fear that she will want to be with mom now because she buys her things. I don't want to push her away but I can't get the stupid thoughts out of my mind and my negatively is affecting my life. Any pointers??