Re: What do you do for time outs?
We have a black chair in our kitchen. When our 3yr old son has done something that is worth a time out, we send him in there and make him face the corner. There isn't anything there to occupy his mind and he is force to think. He usually cries, in which we tell him that his time on the chair will be shorten when he stops crying and thinks about what he has done. We usually wait five minutes, then one of us will go in and question him on what he has done to make him realize that it was wrong to do it, then we let him talk and we tell him that we love him but expect an apology, if he apologizes he can get off the chair.
Usually we have a four step system, if he is doing something wrong we tell him to stop. If he doesn't stop he isn't allowed certain things, such as no TV for the rest of the day, or isn't allowed to go or play somewhere. Next he is told he will go on a time-out, if he goes on a time-out but continues to repeat what he was doing, then we make him go to bed and take a nap.
I'm not saying this works for every child, my best friend's four yr old daughter doesn't respond to any of the punishments such as time-outs etc. It all depends on the child.