| | Re: 7 year old rules the household...Suggested chores for a 7 year old?
I think if he can do things on his own when he's with mom then he is capable.
It's a matter of making him do these things when he's with you. You need to let him know in no uncertain terms what is expected of him and keep enforcing it over and over because with young kids you have to constantly enforce things. You could post a chore chart and allow him to stick a foil star or another small sticker next to it when he's completed it. Do you offer rewards for chores and/or good behavior? I have 3 boys ages 8, 14 and 16 as well as 4 stepkids ages 3, 5, 7 and 8. When the stepkids are at home with mom they have a lot of chores; helping with laundry, dusting, vacuuming, taking out trash, feeding dogs, sweeping kitchen, and of course cleaning their rooms, making their beds and picking up their things around the house. My boys know they make their beds upon rising in the morning and they clean up their rooms everyday. These things are expected and if they don't get done they lose priveledges like playstation, xbox, phone, computer. Allowing them to use these things IS a priveledge not a right. We also give them an allowance for doing 'extra' things like mowing the yard, taking out trash, vacuuming, laundry, cooking, etc. I think for your stepsons age he should certainly be making his bed, cleaning up his messes, etc. It's really up to the adults to enforce these behaviors. It'll probably be a struggle at first but it will become easier and you'll be happier and in the long run it's what's best for the child. We don't want our kids going through life thinking everyone will do things for me so it's okay to be a slob - this won't make him a very good husband or father down the road! Be firm and keep at it, it must be consistent!