Re: 9 yr old molested by grandfather please help
I am so sorry to hear of yet another child having to go through this horrific event. It isn't fair for them. My little boy was 5 when we found out, it was right before his 6th birthday. (He is still 6 now) It was very hard getting details out of him also and his mental disablities didn't help. So, I can empathize.
All I can suggest is just to keep reassuring that it isn't her faul, she did nothing wrong, and if she doesn't tell he might do it again to someone else, I know that might put alot of responsibility on her little shoulders, but it might also make her feel empowered to tell and make him stop. Just reassure, reassure, reassure she did nothing wrong and it isn't her fault.
Maybe having a female child advocate talk to her, like she may be embarrassed to talk around you. Or she may be uncomfortable talking to women, have her talk to a male.
You could also have her draw pictures, or have her write it out, the best she can. Somtimes that will help to get it on paper to be able to speak the words.
Gosh, I sure do hope you get your little girl to talk, keeping all that in isn't healthy, body or soul. I feel so bad for her, and you have a long road ahead of you too, so be prepared and be strong.
I hope I gave some decent advice.