Re: Potty trained, but anal retentive
Once you can rule out a digestive problem related to his BMs, I think that you should probably spend your energy trying to encourage him to have his BM's throughout the day. Set aside 10-20 min. several times a day and tell him it's "poopie time" or (whatever you call his BMs). Sit him on the toilet, give him a cute book to look at, and tell him it's time for the poop to come out. Make a game out of it if you can. I am also wondering if it would be possible to get him up once during the night to sit on the toilet to see if he'll go. Yes, this is all easier said than done. If you do not mind cleaning up a bit of a mess, it might be helpful to let him have a BM in his underwear at night to help him understand why "big boys" go on the toilet instead of in their underwear. I'm thinking that the more you put the diapers on him at night, the more it's reinforcing that it's okay for him to poop in them at that time. He is probably associating the diapers with it being a good time to have a BM.