LOL we've both tried this at the same time!
My bedtime routine with Gabby is a bit different but it works for us.... so far.
I let her take a bottle of milk to bed BAD I know but she drinks it all so it's not sat in her mouth for ages. The 1st night with Gabby took 1/2 hour of me laying her back down and patting her back then another 15mins of sitting next to the cot "shhhh"ing her. Next night she stayed laying down!! And I sat by her cot shhhing her for about 20mins, Now after 2 weeks of sitting with her I can finally put her in bed with her milk and leave the room
I work 3 evenings a week so 1st week dh (who I also love dearly but could strangle sometimes LOL) lets her fall asleep on the couch cause he was watching a show OMG could have died because we were straight back to square 1. I just had to start all over from the beginning, Cuddling her with her milk till she was almost asleep then laying her down in her cot everytime she stood up I would lay her back down and rub her back. Luckily when she wakes up in the night she goes straight back over in a few mins with the back rubbing. The only problem I have is she usually wakes up soaked through, I even started using nappies 2 sizes up but they still don't do the trick all the time.
So don't think I've helped much lol but just to let ya know that your not the only one who's been through the tough it out routine latley