Re: Need a way to overlook bio mom!!
I agree with mak0395. My husband had 4 with his ex and they lived with their Mom in another state. He and the ex hated each other so much, that they had to communicate for visitation through the kids (which was difficult at that time because they were pretty young still). Anyway, later each came to live with us at various times, but my husband and I didn't really discuss "issues" about her in front of the kids. Believe me, once they get to a certain age, they KNOW. If you need to vent, do it with a friend or family member and just get it off your chest. If you spend time with your SD and have a relationship with her, there is nothing the bio mother can say that will hurt you in the long run. It is hard now, but the older she gets, the easier it will be.