Question.....my son is 5 and very aware of penis. He is constantly playing with himself and I do not let him I know I am aware because he doesn't do it in public. I don't want to make an issue of it because I don't want him to feel unconfortable or "dirty" for doing so. But yesterday he told me to put my hands down his pants. I said "that isn't appropriate, only you can touch yourself." He said nothing else and went about his regual routine. I told his father and asked if he ever said it to him and he said "no, but I see him touch himself and I will keep my eyes and ears open it anything else happens," and I asked my mom and she said this complately normal. Is it? Does anyone else feel weird about this?
I think that is normal behavior, my duaghter is six and is very aware of her body also, and if she is not asking me questions about herself she is looking at it in amazement. I think thats a part of the body that is not normally seen, plus it looks differrent so of course they are going to be curious. I don't think you have anything to worry about
This brought back memories for me.. My son who is now 12, used to hold on for dear life.. in fact I have pictures of him from when he was 5-6 and in every single one, he is holding on.. Tyhank god he doesn't do it any longer LOL Very normal... this will pass
But yesterday he told me to put my hands down his pants. I said "that isn't appropriate, only you can touch yourself."
I think you have the right idea...teaching him boundaries without overeacting. And it's a good sign that he knows not to do it in public....just an idea, you may want to tell him, next time you see him touching himself, that he should only do that in his bedroom or the bathroom.
Paperdoll, that seems quite logical..."only do that in his bedroom or the bathroom." I guess I haven't really addressed it in that fashion since he laways seems to do it when he is spacing out watching t.v. on the couch, or when I am reading him stories. I think I will run it by his father, this course of action, since we don't live together and both of us enforcing won't cause any mixed signals. Thanx!
Last edited by tattoogirl; 05-22-2006 at 01:16 AM.
too funny tattoos! my son is 5 today and does the same thing. i did exactly what you did. calmly told him that that's not appropriate in public. another thing he occasionally does is he sticks his hand in my shirt when we're reading bedtime stories. when i tell him that's not appropriate, he asks, only babies do that?
lane71501....oh my gosh...the breast thing my son does that too....and he also makes the "only babies do that?" comment. Your comment made me laugh out loud! I so understand. Guess this is the age they really notice the difference between male and female parts! I am starting to feel much better after everyone's comments. Thanx a bunch!