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Old 06-13-2006, 07:39 PM   #1
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Advice on lies!!!!!

I have three kiddos, 8, 6, and 3. We are going through a terrible time right now with everyone lying. I never know whos telling the truth and whos lying. I make everyone sit!!! My 6 yr old is the worst and they aren't huge lies but I don't understand why she'd lie about something little. I never freak out when I do find the liar so I don't think she's afraid she's going to get in trouble. I'm at my wits end here. Any suggestions?

 
Old 06-24-2006, 09:11 PM   #2
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Re: Advice on lies!!!!!

What is your family's reason for not lying to begin with? Is it religious (God doesn't want us to) or is it socially unacceptable (People won't trust you)? I would ask yourself this question (I'm sure you already have the answer) then have a talk with your kids. The older two, specifically, because they next need to learn that they are examples to their 3 yr old sibling. They have a responsibility to help teach this child the rules of the world. Explain to them how it feels to be trusted - use your own examples and tell them how good it feels. Then ask them how they feel when they lie and let them answer. Talk about privileges being taken away and awarded accordingly. When a child does finally come forth with the truth, hug them and tell them thank you. Tell them it would've been better if it hadn't happened at all, but you're grateful they came forth. Don't punish them too much - because they'll feel "Why tell the truth - I'll only get in trouble" (if they're older and it's super serious, that's different). Then read books on Lying. Make it a conscious effort for the next few weeks then revisit it again later. You can even play a game to see if they can even recognize the difference between a truth and a lie. Finally, make sure you're not lying, yourself. Are you making up stuff to get off the phone in front of your children or to get out of responsibilities? Children learn it from somewhere - ask them where they learned it - maybe it was a neighbor or friend. If so, point out that the behavior is not ok (don't threaten to eliminate any friendships). Say "Susie is a good friend, I know, but I wonder how she feels when she lies. How do you feel?" etc. Just my thoughts.

 
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Old 06-26-2006, 12:39 PM   #3
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Re: Advice on lies!!!!!

My son isn't a good liar,which is good so far.I finally caught on that when he would lie he would put his hands on his head and keep them there until I would tell him I knew what he did,then he would break down.Maybe watch for signs like ours that may show they're lying?

Or like my 5 year old daughter,,lolol,I have to laugh with her.

EXample...Okay inside toys are outside.So I say"Who took the toys outside?
Son"Not me,sister did it."
Daughter"uh,uh,brother did."
Ahh,but daughters face looks like she's so serious so she doesn't get caught,that's when I know she's done it.

So far facial expressions and hands over head are the liar catchers around here.

 
Old 06-26-2006, 01:03 PM   #4
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Re: Advice on lies!!!!!

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Originally Posted by nameisabby30
My son isn't a good liar,which is good so far.I finally caught on that when he would lie he would put his hands on his head and keep them there until I would tell him I knew what he did,then he would break down.Maybe watch for signs like ours that may show they're lying?

Or like my 5 year old daughter,,lolol,I have to laugh with her.

EXample...Okay inside toys are outside.So I say"Who took the toys outside?
Son"Not me,sister did it."
Daughter"uh,uh,brother did."
Ahh,but daughters face looks like she's so serious so she doesn't get caught,that's when I know she's done it.

So far facial expressions and hands over head are the liar catchers around here.
My dad told me as an adult that he knew each and everytime I lied even upto the age of 17 or so as I would always put my hands in my back pockets or side pockets if I was telling a fib. He always told me that if I wasn't telling a fib I would have my arms waving, pointing and gesturing all over the place while explaining my case. I still find it quite funny looking back at the times I did lie and I do quite remember having my hands in my pockets.

 
Old 06-26-2006, 02:45 PM   #5
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Re: Advice on lies!!!!!

lol My 7 yr old son ALWAYS does this same thing with his face and head when he lies its like he cant even help doing it so we always know when hes lying.

 
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