Re: Holding out for junkfood
We were headed down that path. Here's what I came up with. For Miss Drue (17 mos), since she obviously can't choose, I keep all her stuff just the healthy. If she doesn't want it, then I just take it away, get her down from the highchair, and that's the end of it.
The big kids get to go with me or write down on the list the snack of their choice. I shop every two weeks. They can choose whatever they want and I don't say word one about it. I pick all the other meals/snacks and make them as healthy as possible.
Example, John may choose Gushers (look close, they may have waved a grape over it to include some fruit). He can then share with his sisters if he'd like. He could eat all six pouches in one day or he can spread it out over the two weeks, up to him. But, once the snack is gone, it's gone until the next shopping trip. Maddy might choose a 6-pack of Soda (no caffeine though, I don't budge on that) or Kool-Aid or something.
I allow them to have however many of the healthy snacks they want during the two weeks, fruit, nuts, veggies, etc.
It works well for our family. We eat every dinner together at home or out at games/practices, etc. (family rule no matter what activities are going on). We go out maybe once or twice a month, simply because it's difficult to take the baby and getting to be very expensive for a family of 6!
They're allowed to choose whatever they want, dessert too, when we go out. When we go camping, they get whatever as well.
Oftentimes now, they'll choose a healthy thing before they go for junk.
Me - I still crave the peanut butter cups and chips!!!