Thanks for uplifting comments. Yes I mentioned it once, and won't again.
My oldest does everything to bring us together, even inviting him to join us for lunch without my knowledge. I have been distancing myself, as it is easier than getting my heart broke with the disappointment of him preferring his fiance's family(or so it appears)to us.
My older young man calls and checks in with me, offers to help without asking and is just there without being a pest. He is also showing off for his g/f. LOL.
I suppose the younger son will grow up. There seems to be a lot of emotional blackmail that goes on in her family, and I decided about a month ago not to buy into it. I guess thats why coming to a site/board like this is good for the soul. Throw it out and get it off my chest..and get good feedback.
Mayam..I wonder if my youngest is also scared about having the same problem as me? Its congenital and possible that he has too due to his having the same symptoms as me, and he is seeing how disabling it is. Maybe he is scared of it and of me? And doesn't know the right way to express it? I dunno..just a thought.
thank YOU Mayam..I thought no one would ever respond.