Thanks galinaqt for letting me know I'm not alone
because I could swear that I was the only person with this problem. Obviously not. He actually gave you a list of things your not doing or doing "wrong". Or did I misunderstand? I know I need to rely on their help too and be appreciative (which generally I am) except when they start overstepping their boundaries and thinking they are the parents when they are not. I am on medication for anxiety and believe me sometimes when I think of spending time with them with my daughter I have to take more than prescribed, if you know what I mean, followed by a shot of some kind of alcohol (which you are not supposed to do with this medication).
We went to DisneyWorld one year with my parents (they invited us and our daughter) and the whole time my father had this "itinerary" planned on where we had to be, at what time, and he was racing all around the park like a madman sweating his *ss off like he wanted to be a heart attack victim (my daughter was only 2 at the time). I don't know why that just came up. Maybe this story will make you laugh and brighten your day.