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Old 09-25-2006, 05:02 PM   #1
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Son gets 'excited' while disciplined.

My problem is a bit embarrassing and I'm actually too embarrassed to ask this to a doctor or counsellor.

Okay, though i know it is not really popular these days for parents to still spank their children, my husband and I still do so and it has been effective for my two older daughters. But my four year old son, starting since maybe last year, will get an erection as I am disciplining him and it really is freaking me out.

I know that the spanking is doing its job because he'll be balling and crying two spanks in, but he will still have an erection during that. To me that is disturbing, I don't want him growing up to be some freak. I don't understand why he would have an erection while he is crying, least of all when he is getting disciplined.

My husband and I would usually do the over the knee thing, with our daughters and with my son, but after noticing his erections I have made him stand or lean over something, but the erections still happen.

I don't know what to think about it, or whether I am missing something, or should be concerned....I am just confused, lets put it that way. Is this normal behavior for a four year old?

 
Old 09-26-2006, 06:52 AM   #2
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Re: Son gets 'excited' while disciplined.

His body is showing a normal response to being sexually stimulated, which is what is happening when you hit him.
That is why some adults have fetishes about spanking.
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Old 09-26-2006, 08:25 AM   #3
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Old 09-26-2006, 09:58 AM   #4
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Re: Son gets 'excited' while disciplined.

Ok...First of all. dont let anyone tell you that you're abusing your child...A spanking is by NO means abuse... My parents did it to me and Im fine as can be. And I hold NOTHING against them for doing that. Mayam is right in saying that it is a normal response. You can try another way of doing this. But don't let anyone tell you that you're abusing your child.

 
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Somebody said that he was having a normal response to sexaul stimulation? I dont' understand. How is that a sexual stimulation? Mabye its because I had two daughters before him so I haven't dealt with a boy before, but does this always happen?

I know some adult men like that sort of thing (my husband included ) but i figured that kind of fetish would be way too sophisticated for a four year old to understand. And besides, when it happens, he is crying his eyes out (i know that sounds bad, but I don't spank him hard,he's just a big softie, no pun intended ) So even if it was a sexual response, why in the world would he being having that kind of response while he is in such an amount of distress that he is crying?

Now I'm openminded about sexuality and everything, but if that is the kind of thing he responds to on a sexual level,.....well that is just too freaky for me. That almost crosses the line into perversity. I really hope he doesn't grow up to be that kind of man.

Since despite the erections, the spankings work in teaching him a lesson, I don't plan on stopping the spanking. I just need to know what I can do to either dissuade him from getting erections, or whehter I should ignore it. I'm afraid if I ignore it than it might get worse.

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Re: Son gets 'excited' while disciplined.

maybe spank him standing up, don't take him over your knee

 
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I wouldn't worry about the erection. Boys are just that way. My son was born with an erection and it never went away and he is a healty 20 year old man.

 
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Re: Son gets 'excited' while disciplined.

It's because you are hitting him near his genital area that you are causing his erection.

 
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