Re: how can I help without over stepping my bounds
Besafe, this choice that this mother has made, to not discipline her son, will have major affects on him! For the sons, sake I would say something. Maybe she is afraid that if she disciplines him, he won't love her anymore. I would have a heart to heart talk with her. One of the effects of this choice that she has made is that he isn't going to have friends if he isn't nice. It seems that he will respond to discipline because of how he responds to his dad and you. Kids actually want their parents to be in control. It's really scary for a child to feel that he, this little child, is in control. I used to do child protection and I was transporting this foster child somewhere (I can't remember where). He started acting up and I firmly looked at him and told him how he needed to behave (I can't remember the details). He got this smile on his face and calmed down and looked like he was so happy. He basically lived in a chaotic home where dad was on drugs and mom was weak and felt that she was "under the children" in power. This child loved that an adult took control of the situation. He felt safe and cared for for once.