Hi I have a 22 month dd, since birth she has always been so outgoing, she was never never never shy to anyboday or anything. Well the past week it has changed.
I dont know it this is a stage but she wants me to walk her in the house 90% of the time. I mean if I dont she freeks, (not just a little cry) and I just cant see her like that. She has always been afectionat she would always come for hugs and kisses but it is really bad now. Ever since she's been 4 weeks old she's been sleeping through the night but the past week she's been waking up. I do know she's going through a growing spurt because just over the weekend she has trippled the size.
Has this happened to anyone els???
mmbss, I think this is the age when they start to realize that they are a seperate person from you. Maybe this is just making her feel a little insecure making this discovery and she just wants a little more support from you.
hi. I know what you mean by her feeling the separation and it is very hard and frustrating for her but we try to give her all the support she needs ( I hope so) Every time she wants to be walked I or my DH pick her up and give her big hugs, tell her I love her and sing her favorite songs. I am a stay at home mother and try to do whats best for her, we go to play groups, gym & swims, we play,she loves to learn new things, arts and crafts and she loves helping her Mommy do the morning house work. We have lots off laughs and fun. I try to always be calm with her we do not yell or slap. I am open to any suggestion's to try.
I am just worried that something is wrong with her.
aww it sounds like you are a very loving mother! i dont think it sounds as if there is anything wrong with her.. there is a stage that they all go thru where they dont like to be sepearted with there main caregiver, that would be you! and it is perfectly normal, however she does need to learn that when you disapear into the toilet you WILL be back, so even if you let her cry for just a minute or two before you rush in to pick her up, it will be good for her.. honestly, dont worry to much she is probably at that developmental stage.. it will pass and she'll be back her her outgoing self again
ill tell ya something.. Im a solo mum and have a 4 year old son. he attends morning kindy and has been for quite a while now.. well he still gets upset a few times a week when i leave him a kindy, kindy is only 3 hours and he lovesss it, but he doesnt like me leaving. I have put this down to me being at home fulltime with him except for when he is at kindy, he goes where i go etc and we very rearly spend any time apart sooo when i do have to leave him, he finds this difficult.. the point of that little story, lol sorry it was long is that when they spend so much time with one parent it is very natrual for them to feel upset when they cant find you, and to generally just want to be with you.. Im sorry that was very long but i hope it was kind of helpful in some way
I thanks for the reply it did help. The past few weeks have been difficult. But it is getting better! Like you said I am the primary care giver and she knows that that I will give into her every need. I love spending time with her but I realized that she needs to spend some time apart. We to mostly spend all are time together she is rarely not with me. So today I enrolled her into morning preschool twice a week for a couple of hours. We went over this morning for a visit and she loved it. When it was time to go she wanted to stay! She will start Wednesday I dont know if it will be harder for me or her lol! Any advice??
We also started special daddy time where it is just her and daddy for a couple of hours. Ever since I have noticed that when I get back she will come for a hug and go right back to playing and laughing. She is growing up so fast
I dont know how you do it solo, but your doing a great job. At what age did you start preschool?
aww im glad the tuff few weeks are getting better! my son son started afternoon kindy at 3 years. he went 3 times a week for 2 hours then when he turned four he went up to morning kindy witch is 5 days a week and for a little longer, this is in prep for school. I had just one reason for enrolling him in kindy and that was to socialise him, i would rather he be at home with me lol becaus i just love having him around but i think its important for children to be able to realate to other children,learn to share etc and gain some independance.. thats why his is there
Im glad to here your daughter liked preschool, you might be like me, i needed a box of tissues after i left him for the first time hehe.. something to be warned about tho is that often around the third day or so, they sometimes get clingy, start off loving the new envioroment (thats becasue its new) and then some days later, when its not as new and they know you arent staying, they can get a bit distraught. hang in there tho, if it happens she will be fine, she will form a bond with one of the caregivers and in time let you go happily, once again it is just a seperation thing.. my son and i have a ritual at kindy, when we get there, he finds his name to stick on the magnetic board and then we read a book, after the book is kisses and cuddles and the promice i will be back at mattime, then i leave.. perhaps you could start some sort of a routine?
good luck on wednesday, let me know how you go! oh and the time with daddy sounds fantastic goodness you are right they grow up so fast! i cant belive in just 6 months ill be packing my darling off to school!
Well we got through the first day of preschool! I think it was harder for me lol. When I left she had a little fuss but a few minutes after I left they said she went up to every child and said hi and started to play. I on the other hand had a few tears on my way home lol!
Yes one of the main reason I put her in preschool is for her to socialize with other children and adults, she is such an outgoing little girl and loves to be around other children, the first thing the teacher said is wow she's a friendly little girl.