BioAdoptMom3

I agree with both of the PPs. One of the causes of this at this age is the fact that they do not have the language to properly express themselves when they want something, are angry, etc. In addition to what you are doing and what was suggested, give him the language because the sooner he has that that sooner the tantrums will end. It will not happen overnight, but may take months and you will need to be consistant, but eventually it should help. You would say something like, "You are angry because we have to put your toys away now but we have to clean up before we go outside", or "You are upset because mommy will not let you have that pretty vase, but it could break and hurt you". You will get tired of doing this, but the sooner they have language the sooner they are able to cope and express themselves. You might also try to head them off before they start if you are not already doing that. If you are going to a restaurant, take some crayons, paper and something quiet he enjoys playing with. If you are going to church, plan to use the nursery, at the grocery store take a toy or two for him or hand him all the non-breakables and let him drop them into the back of the cart, etc. Make a game of things whenever you can too. Say I'll pick up the blue blocks and you pick up the red ones, or I bet I can clean up the toys before you. Give choices as much as possible too. Ask him if he wants to nap with his blue blanket or his yellow one, or ask him if he wants to wear his Sponge Bob shirt or his Spiderman shirt, etc. If they have some control they tend to not throw as many tantrums.

Nancy