Re: misbehaving 4 year old
I'd say that first and foremost you should make sure there is no reason for the way she acts towards them. There could be some things you don't know about going on behind your back. And don't just ride off me telling you this. Things happen and a lot of times it is completely unexpected.
Even though your daughter is 4, try to talk to her about why she doesn't seem to like them. See what she says. See if she gives you a reason or if she doesn't know.
Now, even though she treats them badly, does she seem happy to see them? Or scared? Or angry? Etc. Take these emotions and analyze them to see what could be bothering her or making her act this way.
Next, after we have concluded that nothing bad is going on and that it is just your daughter being that way, we want to curb that behavior.
If she likes when they come over, have them not come over for awhile and tell her why. Try to explain it to her. She IS old enough to understand if you put it simply. "Grandma is not coming over to see you because you treat her mean and it makes her sad." Then, ask her if she means to make grandma sad. Start a dialogue.
If she doesn't like grandma coming over, ask her why she doesn't like grandma. Don't be specific like "Do you not like grandma because <blah blah blah>" because that will put ideas in her head. Let HER tell YOU.
Now, I'm not going to to through every emotion, but I think you get the picture.
4 years old is a good age to open some dialogue. Have her sit down and really talk to you. Before you can do anything with this behavior, you need to find out what's causing it -- something going on, or just being a bratty or bossy or disobedient little girl.
Or, the other option, is that the adults in this situation do not really know how to handle her. Has it been awhile since your mother-in-law has been around other kids? Is this her only grandkid? Is she too soft and not know how to be firm? Because, this could be the problem also. Kids will be kids, but a lot of times they are worse because the adults "try" but not really that hard.
Just some ideas!
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Last edited by GodsGirl4ever06; 04-01-2007 at 05:47 PM.