My son, who is 4 1/2, has been going to pre-school/daycare for about a year and a half. We started out going a few days, part-time. He hated it at first so we switched to a different school and he really loved it at first. Gradually I had to increase my work hours so he's going 4 days in a row, 8:30-5ish. Now we're back to not wanting to go. I swear we're both in tears by the time we get there. Then it's 1 more hug and 1 more kiss before I go, then it's please pick me up before nap Momma pleeeeaaaassssseeee. His teacher says he cries almost everytime he wakes from his nap and asks for me. Otherwise his teacher says he's fine and has a great time, don't worry etc... but I just can't ignore it! I want to know if anyone else has had this issue and what you did to help your kid feel better about going. Help, I'm a wreck and thinking about changing jobs. My Husband is supportive over anything we can do but I'm just not sure what I should do!
My dd is going to daycare since she was 3 months. At first when we changed daycare she didn't want to go to the new one for 2 weeks. She had used to it now. She has periods when she doesn't want to go. We have no choice; she should go. In my opinion keep taking him there until he has used to it. If it is reputable place with refrences and you have no reason to belive that he is mistreated there, you should keep taking him.
Personally, now remember this is a personal issue, no one can make decisions for you, if I could change things, I would take my child out.
He is so young and if he hates it why make him do it? It's not a necessity. I know a lot of people will reply to this and start talking about "but what about school? They can't just quit school." That's different. That's something that is non-negotiable and the kids are older.
Even there you have different choices. Homeschooling, private, public, religious, etc.
Back to the subject at hand, after being there, doing that and not taking my child out, if I could do it again, I would take him out in a heartbeat.
Thanks PinkPiglet, I would take him out if I could. He's not starting kindergarten this year because we feel his still too immature and doesn't want to go. he would just turn 5 right before the school year and so we're waiting until he's 6. He's a wonderful student, fast learner and quite bright (already reading some) but he says the reason he doesn't like school is they don't get to play as much and he loves to play! I guess that would be true for most kids. I'm going to try and cut back my hours so he's there for a shorter period of time. Maybe that would help. I would love to hear more about your experience and why you would have taken your child out if you could do it over again. Please share.
My son still remembers being in the classroom that he hated. The teachers were wonderful (my dd's went there too and I am a good friend with one to this day). However, the noise and chaos of all those kids really bothered him. He would sit in a corner and stay by himself.
For him it was not a good experience. For his sisters it was great.
My son has a similar reaction to his preschool. Normally it ts the result of being picked on by another child or told he couldn't do something. He also has severe sleep apnea, which made everything worse for a while. He is social at his class level, but mentally operating at a much higher level. When he is bored and not challenged he starts into the I hate school, I don't want to go to school, Please pick me up before nap, why can't I stay home to day.
My sons teacher are now aware of his sleeping disorder as well as mathmatical and reading aptitude. He is allowed to go and get lessons from the first grade class room versus doing the remedial work in his preschool class.
Does your son snore? Have chronic respiratory ills? Wake up tired and grumpy.. more than once a night? If so you might want to look into sleep disorders in children. All these are signs of obstructive sleep apnea which can be lethal and is oft time misdiagnosed as ADD/ADHD.
Best of luck finding the solution. You should also try and arrange a few times were you can observe your son in his classroom environment in absentia.
If we learn by our mistakes, I am working on one hell of an education.
Well, you've pretty much described my son. He snores, it's not loud and my husband and I thought it cute. We never thought it was anything to be concerned about. Although he doesn't have illness very often. He almost always wakes up crabby. I just thought he's not a morning person. Maybe I should have him evaluated or something? Did you have your son evaluated? I never thought he was gifted or anything just bright. He amazes me sometimes when he reasons. But he's my only kid so I don't know whats normal, average above average or what might be signs that he may have a high IQ? His teacher says he usually will sit to do the work and finish before everyone else because he's anxious to get back to playing. I don't know if he's bored....how do you know that he's bored? What should I do now?
Because your son snores, he needs to be evaluated by a sleep specialist and ENT immediately.
You are most likely looking at your son have obstructive sleep apnea (OSA) as a result of enlarge tonsils and adnoids. Snoring is not natural in children under the age of eight. Snoring in a child under the age of 8 is automatic grounds for a tonsillectomy and adnoidectomy (T&A). When you consult with a sleep specialist they will recommend you to an ENT; the ENT will prescribe a T&A and then you will need to have a postoperative sleep study performed over two separate nights. The first night is a baseline study, the second is effectiveness of a CPAP to control any apnea events. If there are no apnea events detected on the baseline study then the second night is not necessary.
The studies will evaluate your son and make sure he is achieving all the stages of sleep he needs to grow and recharge healthily. Sleep apnea is genetically dominant and hereditary. If your son has it, you or your husband have it.. and maybe a grandparent as well.
If the T&A does not cure the OSA your son will get his own machine with a nasal mask that keeps a pressurized air blowing into your son's nose so that his airways do not collapse causing an OSA event. My son sleeps a solid 10-11 hours on his machine every night. Now he is rested, focused and his learning and comprehension capabilites are beginning to shock my husband and I. We are both above average.. Ph.D.'s but it is getting scary the way he plows into math and reading.
As far as IQ or development evaluations goes I have a family of teachers, one directed her own preschool for years and knows what level children should be at.. she tested him by core requirements and he met and went beyond all she had in her school. We are not flash card toting, lesson pushing parents. Brennan at the age of 18 months wanted our laptop computers, by two he was using them. He was site reading at 2 as well. We never babied him and always talked to him and treated him like you would anyone else. His latest tangent is how a car works, he is very interested in how it goes potty. Getting things in laymans terms can be difficult at times.
We know by the material he works with and his thought processes that he is about two years ahead of his classmates right now. A good pediatrician or childs psychologist can do an official evaluation, or you can just look at the recommended lessons and skill required at different grade levels and see what your child can do in comparision.. my son is an only child and a miracle, considering I was told I was infertile and showed up pregnant with him the next month... I consider all children miracles and believe they should be given the utmost care.
As far as boredom.. if you son has sleep apnea he is acting out as a result of that. On the ADD board I listed all the problems sleep disorders in children result in. You should check it out so that you arm armed when you go to your MD's looking for a referral or consultation.
My son has had the T&A, and sleep study performed. He is now growing again and well on his way to four feet at 4. I am 5'2" and it is going to be difficult laying down the law when I have to stand on a stool to look my son in the eye.
Best of luck to you.
If we learn by our mistakes, I am working on one hell of an education.